My life hopeful someone can help/ talk

Feeling down, A distress to my family, not living to their expectation, telling my self falls lies, Never had a single girl to talk, Never had girlfriend, always self doubting, wasting time, higher expectation, analyzing everything other say, giving great advice but never follow 1, self hater , waste a lot of money eating and enjoying ,wasted time doing lousy stuff, when alone even for a day cant do anything but play games and waste time, but around someone motivated, telling lies to my parents , illusionate all the things i want but never take action, want a girl in life but cant have , have many to share always afraid to ask for help. have achieved never had a big failure never failed a exam but failing now down the darkness of various things. Jealous of other achievement and progress comparing mine with them .

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Bhava…Marathi ahes?
I thought from the name

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yes sir marathi ahe ani tee pan neet yet nahi lihat vachta

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Bro bro bro…me not any sir :joy::joy::joy:
I’m 15. How bout you?
I think you’re probably in 20s?

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i respect every person unknown with sir age doesnt matter

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heya , i am sad to read this i wish u had a better experience in live.
I assure you it is still possible to achive great relationships!

However have you thought/asked yourself about why you hate yourself so much and why you want to ahve a girl/woman in your life?

this knowledge might hep you.

i wish you the best on your nofap journey and i think it is great that you decided to express on this plattform it is one stiep in the right directionand proof of you changing towards the things you desire.

bests SirTryHard

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thankyour for encouragement sir i hope i will be able to better.
This is the answer to your question.
I hate my self because i never do what i say i cant keep my word to myself how can i keep the word i gave to other . i do worst thing knowing they are not good i say something else to my parents i am going to study but all i do when i am alone is masturbate and play watch movie eat junk food watch movie. i live a life of a lie please help me in this.
2nd q
This is emotional and Rule too. my parents do like me to talk to any girl expect sister who i dont have a good relationship . i have been single till the day. i have a underling desperation that i wanna have a single girl i wanna talk too i know its influence of social media and all but be in my shoe man for 22 in them u can live 2 year of time where i talked for 20 years i have never talked to a single women do u see where my desperation come from i think that a angle will come and save me understand me . because of this desperation i have message many girls unknown had some friend but lost them in wake of getting a girlfriend. i know man we dont need a girl to talk to or share i need is someone who can truely understand me, help me discover myself.

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Hey mate sadly only you can really help yourself -.-^i am willing to give you some pointers if you want to and there are other people here who can provide you with resources and inspiration but we all do our work alone if you want we can try sth together in a thread maybe others will join

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@Hrushi ia m really saddend by your story-.- and i ahve to admit i have a hard time understanding: are your parents stopping you from contacting girls?

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its like a hard imposed restriction

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i see are you living with them or how do they impose this restriction? may i also ask why they do that?

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its like if u dont follow it u cant come home or u are not their son anymore. its not about i talk or not if i get caught its over soo i dont want to do it . i have been caught in such acts i have been told to leave once soo

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Congrats your eyes are now open
you realize there’s an issue somewhere
now you can take steps to taking back your power and being who you want to be
The enemy believe it or not
is porn
its holding you hostage it wants all your time and energy creativity and motivation
you need an enemy to fight; right now and its porn
you got life in your body and its also in your ball sacks
what do you think happens when you let it spill out for things such as porn.
its stealing from you
take the fight to it and you’ll start to see change you will become the change
girls can come later
right now take the first step
FIGHT

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thankyou for your generous reply sir.
Fapping has been a problem to me for 8 years now such a long time. i have done some big streak i am boosting about it that what is keeping me back.

your right i cant force you to live
you have to want to live life to the fullest

Yes Sir i will have to live my life but i need some one help to get through this phase.

Story almost similar to mine . You know after doing nofap for so many years I can tell you some things. Porn is root of all. It is like a wolf in cover of sheep. So first step is to remove porn.
By reading your story I can tell.
Your depression will not go even if you do nofap for many months . Yes you can get lot of benefits but you will gain back your real life when you will do something big. I mean like making your parents proud. It is my personal experience . Life gets 1000 times better if your parents are proud of you. And trust me you can do it too.
And for that you need to be disciplined now my friend.
Most people who are unhealthy, unwise and loser chose entertainment over education. So you also need to change that. Start taking action slowly.
Don’t focus now about talking to girls. God arranges everything . Just believe that you will get that confidence .
And now slowly start nofap . It will take time but I know we can do it.
Start now my friend . All the best.

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i am sorry to hear that and sadly i can not really help with that -.-^
i can however offer some advice with regards to your self-hate problem as @UntiltheEnd posted Porn might be a major issue for you especially with regards to self hate. it is know that porn can lead to or amplify depresion, shame and self hate.
first of all you have my condolesence with that you are cut off from the other sex -.-^ that sucks and i ahve a hard time imagining this scenary and how desperate/isolated you must be due to that…
however there is a life aproach folowing the saying:

if you can not change it ~ change how you perceive it

meainig that you can either search toi change your circumstance regarding the gril issue or you can accept the fact that you are having this issue and do about your perception of that.
you have already done a major first step (as @UntiltheEnd said your eyes are open and you are aware of the problem)

now you need to understand the root of the issue and possilbe options how to remedie that.
e.g. for change: if you can not se girls right now → what needs to be done so that you can see them in the future?
e.g. for perception: what is it that i want to feel/experience with a girl → what are possible diffrent ways to satisfy these needs etc…

hope this helps!
bests

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Brother…this may be harsh and stuff but
You’ve lost everything you had…what more do u have to lose?
I’m sure you’re older than me and might think what does this brat think posting in adult affairs

But hear me out.
Ask yourself what more do u have to lose?
Nothing. That’s it. You’re at your rock bottom.
What I think you should be doing now is starting to do things one by one.
Start small. Anything helps.

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@pingpong1 @SirTryHard I would like to say one thing thankyou for your support. This is my major problem if u both can help i do things to extreme only when i am alone like alone at home for 2 3 days this is the time i am most uncontrolled i will play all day watch all day game all day doesnt matter what i have done earlier day i take this use less things to extreme. other problem is the expectation of my parents that i am losing i am appearing for the toughest exam of india i think i am doing it for name sake sooo that i can say i prepared for the exam but then i also wanna crack the exam the exam demand is too high for me but i still wanna do it but i dont take the fucking action i dont fucking study as much i shall do this the biggest lie that is eating me now

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