My lapse and lessons from it....require ur suggestions

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things I knew would happen…
I don’t want to really get rid of the addiction I kind of want it…i.e. why this relapse…after my last relapse I told I will make a streak of 30 days…then once a week I will do the fap…but I failed on the fourth day…
these four days were good…

had good benefits…urges had come down…

then again the same cycle happened today…I got up late was alone in the house…watching mobile videos then slowly the things shifted to naughty stuff.
I am happy in between I was able to do the urge surfing…but then again I started to use the mobile and relapsed…

now learning from this relapse…
u cannot be loose with the commitments any time even if u have abstained for four days same precautions are required…

  1. it is a problem treat it
  2. not every fun u can have in life.
  3. not alone in house.
  4. mobile phone to be used in living room

I think if I would have used these precautions only I would have prevented relapse…

side effects are the time waste u did… and what will happen now…u will sleep and rest for sometime u want to have some food…which will again make u drowsy…

I am dealing with a big problem not a small one I have to fight it out…and this is one of the most imp way I can be more confident and motivated…

one more point I want to add is self discipline

u had promised urself to get up at 5
first mistake don’t go in bed again…second mistake even if u are late plan ahead how are u going to spend the day…if u plan I don’t think u would have stayed home and relapsed…
planning is very important to enjoy life and enjoy the most of it.
so I will some up give points

  1. it is a problem treat it…and get rid of this fast
  2. u cant have every fun in the world…
  3. practice self discipline and planning
  4. not to be alone in the house.
  5. mobile phone in the living room

common beat it.

Require ur suggetions

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I recognize your story. I had a relapse yesterday after 14days. It’s terrible to lose control by slipping from video to naughty stuff. I don’t want to beat myself up with shame and guilt. We have to start over counting but it’s not starting over our process of quitting pmo. We have learned from this relapse. Just like you mention, now you can prepare yourself better. Now it will be no more surprise if we fail when we start with edging. The point is, stay alert. 24 hours a day. Never challenge your will power with edging.

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Ya true… Will definitely beat it

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Good stuff man.

I found your second point: “We can’t have every fun in the world” an interesting one. It brought up an old quote I used to use from a comment I found on the Hub.

Under a particularly disgusting video I had just watched, I scrolled into the comments. Someone had posted,

“Fun without control. It is a strange hell.”

I found this quote very true and very much a description of my life at the time, when I was in the middle of this addiction.

Not much else I wanted to say, but I felt compelled to add to your point after it brought back the memory of it.

Stay strong :muscle:

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Sorry for the late reply…
Ya that’s also a good one…fun without control is a strange hell…

I meant that mind tries to tell u, let’s try it…let’s try tinder.lets try drugs, let’s try this kind of porn that kind of porn etc… Mind tells us many people do it… but u ll have to tell it…child u can’t have all the fun in the world…a single puff of cigarette, a single shot of cocaine or porn will make u addicted…

Thank u for ur comment

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