Today I cleared the 90 day goal I imposed myself. Pretty proud, I never relapsed since I started this.
I wanted to share with this community the benefits at this point of my journey, and share some advices for all of you climbing toward the 90 day goal as well.
Benefits:
- More energy : with proper sleep and food diet, I feel considerably less tired during the day, it’s crazy.
-More time : spending 1 hour, 2hour finding the perfect material to fap to many times a week, ring a bell? Or even looking at hot pics on social media, looking at erotic pictures, ecchi mangas, videos and what not
That was me, when I was doing pmo.It’s incredible how much time I have spent doing this, you can easily imagine how much free time I have now.
- More motivated in life: knowing that you are working actively to improve yourself and your life, living and going through this No-PMO journey with other people around the world gave me a surge of motivation to improve myself,
accomplish and start new projects.
-Less depressed (no longer at all?): Before that I was very depressed, at work one of my colleagues often teased me for never smiling at all, now I joke about it saying “I don’t see you smiling either on monday morning”.
I am currently living abroad with a good steady and great rewarding job, but I made the decision to go back to my home country, leave my confort zone because I have no friends nor family where I’m currently at.
-Dreams : before when I had a dream, I could not even remember the content of it 10 to 30 minutes after getting out of bed. But now, holy hell, sometimes even after 2/3 days I can still remember every detail of it. It seems trivial, but I definitely had a thick brainfog before.
Misc:
-The urges : at the beginning the urges were often and strong, even after clearing 30 days I’m not going to lie, though less frequent , I had really strong urges. Meditation and accountability partners helped a lot.
-attraction : some users said felt more attraction from the opposite sex, but I didn’t feel any particularly attraction at all (though to be honest I don’t often have the occasion to meet others girls my age )
-Wetdreams : since no-pmo I never had any wetdreams, and the night I almost had one, I woke up just before.
Advices
You have to change your habits drastically.
-I started writing a journal. I think it helped me a lot to organize my thoughts, expressing what was not going so well, writing important events that made me happy or feels important to me. The journal helped me a lot in the beginning of the process.
-Try to be as social as possible, even though I’m very shy, I try to be as open-minded as possible, and partake as many social activities as possible. Be with other people as often as possible, because once you’re alone, old habits are kicking in.
-Reading books : I’m the type of guy owning 0 books, so buying one and reading it because I was not compelled by a school project says a lot. Even reading 5-10 pages every day is fine. The one I read was “The subtle art of not giving a fuck” ; by Mark Manson, I strongly recommend it.
-Meditation : as a complete beginner, I tried sitting down and meditate 10 minutes every 2 days.
-Remove every trigger in your life : hot models on instagram, anime/mangas/tv shows/movies/magazines which are too sexy, naughty. Before I was reading and watching animes with a lot of ecchi content. Needless to say I don’t watch anime anymore lol, there are fanservices everywhere in 80/90% of anime produced every year.
For almost all of us here, we all stumble across this nofap/no porn and start quitting it because something else is not going very well in our life, I hope that during this journey you will identify it, and find a solution for it.
For me I still don’t know if I found the right course of action, but what I’m sure of is that being the same person as I was certainly isn’t.
If you want to add me, here is my companion code :2f74afb
My goal now is 180 days.
