I was on 13th day of nofap, everything was going great, i was happy
then i logged into my insta after 1 month
i relapsed after watching my fav models at 5 pm
it really saddened to such a point
that after that i said to myself fuck all this nofap bullshit
and i fapped for 3 more times in the next 9 hours after a VERY HIGH DOSE OF PORN, PROBABLY 4 HOURS
i really have lost my mind this time
i really have NO CLUE what i should do next, so frustrating and irritating this is
i knew while I was fapping that I’m gonna regret but still I couldn’t resist
all the motivation I had, the quotes I read, the videos I saw drained out the moment I lost the game in the first place
One of my friend suggested me to taper it down slowly, steadily rather than completely abstaining it, I don’t if it will be a good idea or should I keep this repeatation of this nofap drama without getting success beyond 21 days
Hey brother you’re stepping in the right direction. First is accountability. It will hurt. But don’t let that discourage you. Just take nofap one minute at a time. Find things you like to do. Find hobbies. Find ways to keep yourself grounded. Feel free to message me if you need help and add me as a companion. My sharing code is e13b3d
Don’t let it define you. Once every 14 days is a different kettle of fish from daily…believe me. Youre on the right track and you’ve just got to learn from it. Staying busy is probably the best plan. I’d say going cold turkey puts you in a more focussed mindset than tapering off…I mean, personally I’d find it hard to define what is the right middle ground… either way, you owe yourself not to feel this disappointed again. That said, don’t be too hard on yourself. Look at yourself like a compassionate friend would and help yourself move forward. (Heck…I’m rebooting again after a stretch of PMO. If I couldn’t believe I could do it right this time, I wouldn’t be here. You’re in good company. Hang in there.)
My code: 0d4405
No one is going to judge you, bro. In fact, you’re one of the biggest motivators for me on this forum.
Believe me, I’m tempted to relapse every morning; when you first try no fap, you may experience what is called the “flat-line” effect. That means that my sex drive was dead. Now, after a few days, it’s bounced back, and it’s especially frustrating in the morning when I wake up.
Still, the internet is your worst enemy at times like this.
Maybe we should disconnect our devices from the internet before bed and in the early morning. It sounds extreme, but maybe it’s a necessary sacrifice. Who knows? Maybe deleting Instagram might be useful.
Look, we all have to deal with temptations. Many of us have decades of learned behaviours that we have to undo, and underneath those behaviours are sometimes trauma’s and unmet needs that we may not even know about.
I wish I could help more, but even I need to find answers. I know you can do it!
This is the trick porn plays with our mind man, after you give in the first time, we usually voluntarily fap because it doesn’t matter anymore. We already fapped. When I started to do no fap, after a period of 30 to 35 days I could not hold on to my urges anymore and I relapsed, and after that I used to fap after two three hours later, looking at the dirtiest stuff I could find to do that.
Bro, only way you can do that is, if and only if you don’t fap the first time. Their is no secret technique to do so but all I can say is,. JUST SAY TO YOURSELF THAT, THE COMING NEXT HOUR I WILL NOT WASTE A SINGLE MINUTE IN PONDERING ABOUT THE PAST AND WILL FOCUS ABOUT MY CAREER . You learned your lesson brother, and start your NF journey for your health, your mind, your family. Just remember how bad you felt after this relapse, and don’t repeat it the next time any urge tries to take control of you.
Identify and stay away from your triggers. Sort out negative emotions before they beg you for a release through pmo
U should have withdrwan from the models bro
As long as u have the power to diffrentiate between right and the wrong know that u are not lost
thank you brother for your kind words
i will be more accountable from next time
but the thing is that conscious thought goes away swiftly in a snap, the moment you let go of your control
thank you so much man
I’m a little skeptical about going cold Turkey because my friend told me it was going against your nature and human physiology, Masturbation once in a while is good for health
but that said i still will go no pmo once again
Thanks for your company
hahaha, how come I’m someone’s motivator??
anyways, thanks for saying that, it made me feel good and made me smile
i did deactivate my instagram apart from other social media too
very true on that, we have our learned behaviours hardwired in our mind, that’s why the tries pattern to repeat itself, we just need to be conscious and make a choice of overlooking it and deceive the temptation which itself is deceiving us on grounds of making us happy
thank you so much for your reply, we all are in search of our true self
very well said brother
thank you for your kind words
I’ll use this guilt
anyway whatever the hell happens to us, we gotta learn and be less stupid the next time which would be an indicator that we actually learnt something otherwise there are just talks
will be wiser the next time
Do you know how the most guys hit thier nofap goals???It’s simple they learn through thier previous mistake
the trigger was the instagram, and i just started stroking lightly, kind of edging and in seconds i relapsed
gotta stay away from the poison
it was just casual scrolling and then i somehow hit it
well now i have already deactivated it
discriminatory power is what gives us sense
and makes us a better human
well, last night, i was really clueless whether the path i took is right or not since i was shaken off
i did watch a lot than usual and was in mood to give up till i drained out all my energy
that was really exhausting till next morning, i skipped the gym too,
That’s why i thought, tapering down will be less extreme and would not lead to such horrific incidents
Yeah It’s make us to procastinate a lot.
thanks a lot to all who gave in their time and words to make me go in this journey once again
if you wanna add me, my Sharing Code - 725ce6
@jain_1051 Don’t beat yourself up because you have given up and given in. It might get worse before it gets better. Tapering down will help you in your mind. Each day is a chance to win in this battle.