Add Cold Showers to the list
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We can make a common editable post like scoreboard, in which everyone will put things.
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Only thing which helped me is to completly look away from any kind of erotica.
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Thanks a lot for all the inputs. I will add them
@AnkitK i thought about that too. But i think it will get too messy if everyone starts to edit. But i will think about it
If you remember something additional just post it
Also, if anyone knows some good topics which can be really useful, just link them
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I gave it a new look. Hope you like it.
Any further ideas?
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Excelent post. In my opinion there are to phases completely different in this addiction: First one: From 0 to 30/40 days Second one: From 30/40 days to all your life.
In first 0 to 3 days is specially hard because your braim blames you in this way "Oh no I lose my streak now I have nothing to lose, so I will fap 5 times and next day I will start again!! But next day your brain will say " Waw, I want more, only this one more, I only will lose 1 or 2 days. So my advice for the first three days is to read the benefits of nofap and the consequenses. Internalize that pain that you are suffering and promise yourself that you will be a better person, not in five years, but today. Brick by brick and you will have a great wall. Start with especific plan in your live and this will be polemic but I recommend that in first days we have to focus in not doing bad things instead of start new habits. Why?, in my case in those days I feel zero energy, like a plankton and when I start a new habit it requires for me a lot of energy, that I dont have, so overstrain leads me to stress and failure. This cause my anxiety and my brain choose the easiest way to release anxiety, so I start to fap. Also when I want to start doing new things, I lose my focus in not doing bad things. And the other cases, 0/3 days for super streaks that fail at 50-300 days. Our brain will said: “Now I am stronger, I already overcome this addiction I dont feel nothing I will continue with my super live”. But I have bad news, Your superpowers have gone. 1 realease is enough to weaken you, specially if you were a ■■■■ addict for more than two years. So my advice here is to rest this 3 first days, and to think about what happen? 
I forgot my beginnings? I am not doing my new habits? I am stressful and I forgot the terrible consecuences of fap? Take a time to plan again and rest. Everything I have told is from my own experience. I am in this addiction since I was 12, And I am struggling again this since I was 13, now 24. Later I will write about the following phases and the strategies that I use. Now I am in day 53, my best in four years. My code is 1b5335.
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The next phase is from 3 to 7 days. This is an easy phase, but a tricky one. If you make a good plan to avoid bad things and you rest properly, you will not have any problems in this phase.
It is important to recognize your “cue” that means your signal to fap. If you feel urgues when you go to the gym because of all sexy girls in shorts, dont go to the gym. Try to do exercise otherwise. If your cue is to be alone when you are working or doing homework, it is forbidden to be alone. We have to be RADICALS or this will not work. Avoiding your cue is the secret in all nofap journey to succed.
The tricky part on this phase is the anxiety, so it is better to AVOID COUNTING DAY BY DAY in this moment.
Next it comes for me the most difficult phase in our journey from day 8 to 15. Welcome to urgue waves. Our brain now is angry😡 and start asking for meal “Hey want dopamine and the easiest way to get it is with PMO I want it noww, only one time”.
There will never be a magic formula to overcome urgues, even the strongest minds can fall, but here I share my tips.
The first and logic one, is to avoid thinking about sexual fantasies. How? Doing something that completely absorbs you and doesnt let you think, because overthinking will kill you. Another thing that can help a lot is to talk to someone and always being in company. I dont like to go walking or jogging because I start to think. Or I like to watch a movie that really absorbs me to forget the sexual desires. We have to know that the urgue is like a trap, you feel like possessed by a beast. What happened to me? I do my best efforts in one day and I am happy for overcoming urgues, but I thought that urgues lasted only one day, so the next day these were stronger than before and I lost the forces. So it is really important to now that you have to be prepared for resist up to seven days with strong desires and the best thing to do this, is to remember that all is false and it is an illusion that hurts you.
If you pass this phase, congratulations, I think that 70/80% fail in this phase (0-15 days). Next phases are more easy and you start to improve in your life, but beware🐍, the brain wil attack different and our strategy should also change.
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Thanks a lot for sharing this friend.
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@neveragaintw , Man, it’s such beautifully crafted. Thanks for the all efforts you took. It’s great. Couple of things I wanna add is,
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Those newbies who are starting-off are recommended to take small steps at a time, like 3days , 7 days, 21 days and then 30&90 days. Vowing to 1000 days of nofap at the first day never works.
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Getting a personal companion. Get yourself a personal companion and be held accountable for each other. Both the companions can share their streak, ideas, progress and most importantly you’ll there for each other during urges and will beat Everytime.
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Reward yourself : Let it be starting a new habit or trying to curb an addiction, you’re doing something what you hate, and when you completed those little streaks, 3 days , 7 days ,21 days… reward yourself whatever you like. For me, I used buy myself nice food and chocolates.
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@krishvamsi30 I really like the ‘reward yourself’ idea - I’m doing that one myself! It’s a bit weird taking myself to dinner alone but the experience really helps me see that I’ve accomplished something worthwhile.
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Didn’t expect so many people to comment on this topic 
Thanks a lot. Each coment is a huge help to this topic 
@srubio I’m thinking about adding a section to my post with links to posts like yours and success stories
I feel like it could be overboarding if I start to add the complete text. Also, maybe it starts to get to a personal level. I guess every person could experience it differently which means that I should add multiple texts like yours. Never the less this is an extremly useful summary of this journey. I definitely wanna add that in some way. I will think about a good solution and will come back to it
@krishvamsi30 Thanks a lot. I will add them during the next days
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Yeah good advice here. I find my faith helps me here as well because I know I’m breaking a commandment and can’t justify lust with any argument. I know from experience that porn has never helped me it’s just a drug I’ve used when I felt bad which then made me feel worse. So it helps being at church in a community of people who won’t condemn you but can never condone porn use. My main point : Accountable2you is a really useful piece of accountability software it won’t block anything or slow your pc but would you look at anything or try and bypass it when you know it will then faithfully report your attempts to your accountability partner? Any attempts to bypass will be reported even if you turn it off so treats you like a responsible adult not a child being locked out of things. Worth a try sales pitch over. But you will want to exclude things like messenger because it will literally track everything you do otherwise incl all conversations and report them too.
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just a reminder for me:
adding "deleting all porn from phone, as well as erotic comics and all that stuff used for masturbation
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Not entertaining ANY thoughts.
“what if’s…” “I feel…” “how do I…”
“I wish…” “I wonder…” “I can’t…”
Either look at them and ask “why?”
or if it’s an unsuitable time, (like before bed)
Leave them put them on the shelf for another day. “Now is not the time, because right now, I’m doing this other thing”
Entertain things you can do and things you’ve accomplished, and get back to the real world.
There’s people living in worse conditions than you & your 5, 10, 20 year lonely yearning habit.
Wanting physical affection isn’t a bad thing.
But if you do want to stop;
Turn the table. Stop entertaining these fantasies.
Get up, get out of bed, get active, and start using your skills.
Be proud to be You and Your decision to move forward. You’re an alchemist, and you probably don’t even realise it.
There’s guys (of all sorts) still jerking off in their bedrooms, but you, brother, are ditching those fantasies, for real life.
Have pity on those who haven’t even tried, and have their interests at heart.
So once again, keep ditching fantasy, don’t entertain thoughts
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Sorry, I had a busy week. Had to focus my attention on other things.
@srubio I really like the idea of informing the new ones about what the journey could look like. I’m thinking about making one chapter where I can add things like how to approach nofap, what to expect (that would be posts like yours) and success stories.
I feel like these three things are important but also very subjective. Everyone will perceive these steps differently. Hence, I think I will only add links to topics about these three things. Like that I can add multiple views without making the post excessively long while also keeping it as objectively as possible.
May I shift your two comments into a new topic and add a link to it into my original post? Then people who have questions about your experience could also directly ask them in the new topic. Or I could lock it if you don’t want people to talk about it
@krishvamsi30 thanks a lot. I will add a part “How to start” where your 3 points would perfectly fit together with some additional ideas I have.
@rebooter81 thanks a lot. I will add this.
I love this part.
I will also look into this software and add it to the list.
@anon67854825 thanks a lot, great inputs will add them
(for me todo:
Find links to success stories and maybe shift srubios
- add krishvams posts
- add don’t create a new addiction to solve this one
- add faith and look into accountable2you
- add delete downloaded and analog stuff
- add aoshigreens)
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Yes, sounds good, it would be a great idea💡.
I’m sorry, I started writing and when I realized I had already lengthened a lot. Actually I cut what I was going to say to the middle to dont interfere in your topic, so I think it is a good idea to shift my comments into a new topic.
don’t worry i liked you idea
it is a good addition
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One thing that would be really useful for newcomers is the knowledge that willpower is finite, and is not a strategy that will lead to success.
I lost YEARS in relapsing and fighting against myself, getting an average of 15 clean days and always falling back down afterwards. Depending on one’s resolve and determination to quit, willpower can carry you through the initial days, but it always runs out. If you don’t have another strategy, relapse is almost guaranteed.
There are many strategies that people are using to navigate the urges and reach freedom. Mindfulness, meditation, constant reminders of why we’re on this journey, my personal strategy is using decision power - the power of choice is an unlimited mental resource. If I had fully understood that I needed to implement real change in my routine besides willing myself to quit, I would have been free years ago.
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