Is it ok to watch soft p*rn without fapping?

As the title suggests,I want to know if it’s ok to watch soft core porn where only kissing and hugging scenes are there. After having high streak for the first time, I am feeling very heavy within myself. It’s feels as if I’m holding some kind of energy within myself. It wants to get expelled,it makes me go outside and start conversation with unknown person, doesn’t matter if it’s girl or guy. It’s so f**king bad that it makes speak without any fear in front of my seniors.

I am really missing the love in my life,so I wanna ask if it’s ok to watch soft erotic content without touching your dk and without fapping.

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Bro @Roads_to_purity isn’t all that good? You are more confident in yourself now, have more energy. Use it for working out, growing muscles, do meditation, yoga practices, productive work to transmute that energy.
It is not ok to watch anykind of porn intentionally, whenever you make that decision to watch it you’ll be agreeing with that addictive part of your brain that so badly craves dopamine.
Soon your dopamine sensors will become insensitive to that softcore (airquotes) content you are watching and you’ll find yourself shifting towards much intense and bad stuff.
Think about all this and decide for yourself, you wanna go back to that old useless addiction or you wanna use all that energy to improve yourself?

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brother I experimented with seeing and not touching like 2 weeks in the past and the truth is not useful, it has no benefits, I don’t know if it is something in those videos that affects the brain but I felt the same as in PMO I hope my experience helps

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You are feeling more energetic but you are saying you don’t see any benefit. What else do you want to experience? You are what you are and what your mindset is, as long as you have enough energy. You look as you should if you have enough energy. That’s what life is about - to live with full of energy and enjoy every second of your existing.
You can use your energy to build, to create and to expand, or you can use it to destroy and explode. If you leave it to be as it is, it will control you. For now you seem to letting it control you. Take back that control and create your dreams. I hope your dreams are not something that destroys.
Kissing a girl is giving a girl beautiful feelings. Watching someone kiss a girl, however, is defining it as something that gives pleasurable to you and nothing more. Choose what is designed to be real, and you’ll be much happier.

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Thanks brother,I got your point. I should start focusing on this energy which is authentic, which I haven’t experienced till now

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My earlier version is sad :disappointed: depressed :disappointed:, unable to talk to girls,always had this emotions that even if I like a girl,she will reject me.

To be honest with you,still I feel this shit that if I propose a girl,there are 99% chance she will reject me

I should now focus on building a muscular body. Also a part of my insecurity is having something to do with hairs. I have relatively less hairs on my hairs compared to boys of my age. It’s not that I’m bald completely. I have a large forehead which I don’t like. Also I feel that if I don’t start taking care of my hairs, I will go half bald by the age 35.

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I see your problem in my brother. He turned 27 2 days ago. He lost a lot of hair. He’s lying under his blanket all day long and fap without stopping. He’s sleeping a lot, he has no energy and his self esteem is 0,1. But a year ago he was to other country and he was happy. And he wasn’t even looking like he lost hair. He looked like a man and I’m sure he was abstaining at that moment. It’s never late when you’re still alive.

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bro I think you have to focus on your muscle development and forget your hair if you have a physique that stands out from the others you have half the way with the girls and if you can’t develop your physique, you must make more money than your competition. I honestly believe that money for women is above a good haircut.

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Regarding my dating history,I had loved only one girl during school days, and when she joined new college,she suddenly ghosted me out of nowhere,I was literally so devastated after that. One day, when I somehow managed to get her talk with me in phone,she told me that she was never ever into love with me and that she would never ever made her decision. She even told me that I was no good enough to become her lover.
Now I was the guy who was topper,I was the one who had helped her during her board exams to get her passed. She didn’t even pass her preboard exams, yet she got around 67+ marks in board. I know from bottom of my heart,I wasn’t that bad guy either who doesn’t deserve love.

For 2 fucking years,I was depressed :disappointed: for that reason. Although I have moved on but that words she told me stills haunts me at the back of my head which is the root cause for my insecurities.

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I wish you the best guys… Leaving this forum permanently… Good luck on your journey

Life is not about past events. It’s more about what lessons did we make from those events.
An example may be a thief who was caught with his fingerprints. He can think of other ways to make money next time or he may think of wearing gloves next time.
You can feel happy that she left you or you can be sad and depressed. The best part is it’s your choice.
Life is not something that ows you feelings. It’s better, it’s giving you opportunities to choose yours.

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@Roads_to_purity , Is it ok to taste poison but not swallow it?

Your topic title is absolutely bullshit.

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the past is gone, only the present and your future remain and you don’t want to live your future thinking about someone who hurt you
bro is sad your story and your only way out is nofap and the way to be your best version to get another woman
is better to die fighting than kneeling

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Where you are in life is because of who you were but where you will be in some time totally depends on who you choose to be
Keep working on yourself, girls will chase you once you are successful and have a good physique.

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As per my personal Definition.
It’s not ok because with time this softcore and ‘chalta hai’ attitude takes us to hardcore content and take away awareness from our goals.
As @Samaranjay said Dopamine Overrush

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It’s nothing unusual. And there is nothing wrong with what she did. That’s how most human operates. She saw the opportunity that you liked her and used that opportunity in her favor. You were under the impression that she will like you more if you will do more stuff for her but that actually never works. I have been through the similar experience so I know how you might have felt but that’s how we learn.

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