Being responsible and promising about something such as that which involves nofap seems to be a difficult task for me. Though I’ve lasted a week with the excitement given by phone games and even with the excitement given by just choosing the best phone game. I found “choosing between porn videos to find the best porn video so far” and “choosing between phone games to find the best phone game so far” to be giving an identical excitement. Which leads us to, “All I did, I think, to last a week was to play and choose games.” Does this mean that as long as the excitement comes from “choosing the best from a group”, you’re fapping? As we know, “choosing the best video” is not the one causing us to deteriorate physically, but just mentally through the destruction of our nervous system in our brain. The one causing us to physically deteriorate is releasing through musterbation. After releasing through musterbation, we’re ashamed for what we’ve done, but after “choosing the best porn”, we’re still excited. We need excitement to be motivated, to live happily, to be happy, to live the present, and to be excited.
Best, better, good. In porn, out of these three, the one we seek is “best”. The ‘best’ excitement inducer, the ‘best’ so far, etc. Though, with the feeling of contentment, we might choose “good”, and by the thought that, “maybe the second is better,” we might choose “better”. But, the question is, “Do we really need to know ‘better’ or ‘best’, if we already found ‘good’?” Though being contented with ‘good’ might not even lead us to porn, or we don’t need to choose because we’re not even using porn at the first place.
Back to the very main question. Is it logical to promise? Promising gives us excitement; knowing that we would be very satisfied if we fulfilled it. Even though, disappointment, grief, guilt and shame is felt after breaking a promise. The logic of nofap is “no pmo = growth + motivation to no pmo”. In words, stopping pmo give us growth and an additional motivation to stop doing pmo. Do we make a promise because we know that we can fulfill that promise, or just to say something to satisfy our anxiety and feel nice that we said something? If it is because to feel nice, we have entered hypocrisy; and if it is because we know we can fulfill it, we are still acting hypocritically. Nevertheless, we know that it’s not for fame that some of us promise almost hypocritically; but for them to gain a good amount support from the members of the group.
Support? Promise and Support?
Even with your own, you can promise to support yourself. Though, we know, “the more the merrier.” So is promising logical/rational? Logically/rationally speaking, no; it’s absurd. But if we consider it’s intention that it could be “to earn support”, we are able to say that it’s cute. Cute because even though, it’s a challenge to gain a support, we are still able to do it through promising… and it’s also a beautiful and elegant situation. Seeking for help is what we humans do when in need, like how kids seek for an answer. So, what this means is, it’s our nature to help each other and seek help when in need. That’s why, “Love your neighbours like how you love yourself.” For what is a human, if it is alone, living only for its own life? Is it exciting to live alone? Though if that human can masturbate and knows how to, for what reward is this human masturbating for? Masturbation’s rewards are temporary, and a reward brought by helping each other is eternal happiness. Therefore, seek help when in need, and give help to those in need. That’s like what the Bible says by the way.