I'm tired of porn and mastrubation, i hate myself

i am 17 years old, i have been struggling with porn and mastrubation since i was 13 . Porn and mastrubation have destroyed my life. I got a fatal effect because of them, and also i got a lot of problems physicly and mentally, it’s day 2 for me, i really want to quit and repair my life, but i kind of feel it’s too late

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No way my friend, there is copious amounts of hope for you.
I’m now 37 and have been hooked on p since the Internet began :pray:

It may feel like you’ve hit the end of the road, and it can totally feel like that at times, but we don’t realise the beauty that awaits us.

That you are here shows that deep down your conscience is more incontrol than you may realise, and it wants to lead you home.

The subconscious part of ourselves is stronger than we think, most people don’t even realise its there. It can be seen as a separate being that has our best interests at heart.

Keep posting and asking questions, we’re all here to support you :pray::+1:

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Its never too late to improve yourself; I’m 17 years old too and I’m still fighting to get rid of still addiction. I’m on day 4 right now and I recommend mindful meditation when you having urges. This addiction has stolen my emotions from me but I still fight because I know my life can become better without this addiction. Please do not give up on yourself no matter what you are going through; things can get better but you will have to put in effort to change it. This is coming from someone that have attempted suicide multiple time and now I have those thoughts less because I’m starting to understand life more.

When you have stop trying that is when you have failed.

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Thank you aoshigreen, i hope you the best

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Yeah man, as others have stated, this is definitely not the end of your story. I am 19 and started on PMO when I was 14. I am now currently on my highest ever streak and still going strong, having beat my previous high about half a week ago. My current streak is 70 days no PMO.

It took me all this time to get here but I’m finally making it. I went through good times and bad times. I’ve hit “rock bottom” several times and been in that situation where it feels like you will never reach your goals, never get out of this.

But you can’t give up! You will beat this if you persist. There are plenty of guys on here like you and me who have been fighting this for a long time, but have finally broken free.

You are young, take advantage of that and get your life started early. Yes you have a lot of time but don’t let that get to your head. Let it encourage you, but nothing more. It can easily become a reason to keep relapsing if you let it.

My biggest tip for you going into this is to stay concious of yourself. Be constantly aware of your triggers, your values/reasons for going into this, and what your urges are telling you (What’s its argument? How is it persuading you?). If you recognize these things everyday, you will be able to better combat them.

Additionally, read up on successful people’s strategies. How did they get as far as they did? Don’t ever stop learning, don’t ever stop questioning. Both what’s working and what’s not working. If you are relapsing, that means there is something wrong with the way your approaching this. Sometimes the things you think were helping weren’t helping at all, you just thought they were cause you heard someone say it worked. Put every strategy to the test and see if it pulls through.

You got this man. If you ever want to join me in the “Check in - Daily Diary - Challenge”, feel free, I would love to see you there! It’s been monumental in helping me to stay clean. It helps you to stay concious of what’s going on inside your head. You’d be amazed how much simply writing something down can help you to understand it in a whole different light.

If that’s not your cup of tea, I’d highly recommend joining my brother @Forerunner in his challenge “The Hero’s 90 Day Challenge”. He gives a much more structured regime to follow to get you through that base reboot of 90 days and get a jump start on your journey to freedom. Actually I’d recommend this one more so than the one I’m currently in. I think for someone who’s just getting started here, it will teach you a lot. Forerunner has a lot of wisdom to share and I wish I would have met someone like him sooner when I was struggling with this alone.

Or you could join both. It’s up to you. Both of them stay on the top of the recent topics list on the main page of the forums, so they shouldn’t be much trouble to find. But let me know if you have any difficulties.

Good luck man :+1: You’re on a great path starting this young.

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And its only gonna get worse until you pull yourself together. This is a great find for me, as I too have deep self-hatred… maybe others find it good too?

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Undoubtedly, there is hope for you.

If you can quit for a day, you can quit for a lifetime.
The willpower to pass 24 hours is all that you need. Now, you’ll want to find better plans and strategies that work for you.

There was a time that I couldn’t even pass two days. When I was your age, my highest streak was about 3 weeks. I’m 25 now, and with GOD’s Help, I am on day 145 now. You can do it too - 200 days, 2000+ days and beyond. By the time you’re my age, you could have many years free and clean from the addiction and be well on your way to an incredible life.

It’s great that you’ve identified how destructive the addiction is in your life, and you’re reaching out and connecting with others for help and support.

There are plenty of different strategies that work which will help you break free. Like @Special_Bird advised, check out other people’s success stories and see what they did. I learned recently that the quickest way to recover from addiction is to copy others who have broken free of it.

Here’s one strategy which I’ve created, to jumpstart your progress. I pray it helps you.

A Hero’s 7 Step Strategy for Victory:
Step 1: Believe it is possible for you to go all the way, and that you will do it this time. From this moment on, you are a success story. You are a warrior. You are the hero in your own movie. Forgive yourself for all past failures, let go of all shame and regret. This streak is different. You are a new man.

Step 2: Believe that you deserve a better life. Think of powerful, personal reasons why you are on this journey, You deserve health, wealth, love and happiness. You deserve to have energy, confidence and self-esteem. You deserve to have success in your spirituality, relationships, education, career and finances. PMO only robs you of your future, and you will not return for any reason. Reflect on these reasons every day; good to write them out and spend two minutes every morning reading them to yourself.

Step 3: Recognise that PMO is not even enjoyable. Pleasurable experiences leave good memories. No one has a good memory of relapsing. All we have been experiencing is temporary relief from strong urges, nothing more. PMO provides us with absolutely no benefit, and dozens of negative consequences. It is far more enjoyable to overcome an urge than giving it to it would ever be. Life without it is true freedom and 100x more enjoyable.

Step 4: Resolve that PMO is no longer an option. No amount of stress or pain in life will make you go back there. No matter how strong the urges are, you will be stronger. Delete all pornographic videos, images, erotic stories, audio clips, burn all magazines and photos and DVDs. Everything must go.

Step 5: From now on, you are a hero, and a hero is not a pervert. Don’t even allow those thoughts to remain in your mind for longer than 2 seconds. No fantasising, no recalling past pornographic imagery or sexual experiences. No staring at attractive colleagues or classmates or women in the street. Always think about positive thoughts only. Our brains can only think of one thought at a time - focus on the positive future you want to live, and every sexual thought will fade away.

Step 6: Make a plan on how you will reach your goal this time. Investigate what caused you to relapse many times in the past and prepare to beat each situation. Take advice and learn from other people’s success stories and see what they did to break free of the addiction. Come up with a method you will follow every single time you get an urge so you can always overcome it. Come up with positive activities you can undertake every time you feel bored, stressed, lonely, depressed etc. so that you do these activities instead of PMO. Set goals for yourself in different areas of your life and work towards them daily; stay busy and focused on building a better life for yourself. A hero does at least one thing every day that is challenging which he can be proud of. Every Sunday, evaluate your plan and see how well you’re doing and what you could improve to be even safer in your streak.

Step 7: Find other people on the same journey as you and connect with them regularly. Share your progress. Share your plan. Notify them if you find yourself struggling with thoughts of returning to PMO. Encourage them and be encouraged by them. As you rise in your streak, help and advise others and show them the way to freedom.

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Like others have chimed in . I’m 33 and it’s not too late. took me years to realize what I was doing to myself… you are starting wayyy young and that’s wayyyyy better. Longer you put this off harder it is. Today is the right time to start

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