I'm confused, can anybody help me?

I’m a 17 years old brazilian teen who wants to quit pornography and live life as it should.
I’ve recently realized the truth about pornography and decided to change my life once and for all. But, as I’m not made of iron, after a couple of days I fell for it and was forced to relapse, and again it happened. I believe that I’ve failed many times because I can’t truly understand the limit between being safe from the addiction and failing. I always ask myself at which point of the urge do I have to relapse. Is having a boner the limit? Is watching porn or a sensual/sexual material, even if not intentionally (let’s say that suddenly in a ramdom social media appears a mature content photo or video or something close to it), enough to reset my progress? Or even an imagination or urge from a dream or a ramdom thought that came out of the blue is considered enough to relapse and start all over again?
Or if there are no rules for it, at least are there any factors that I may consider to “jugde” if I must relapse or not?

By the way, as I’m not fluent in english I’ve problably made some mistakes, so just ignore them, if possible (or if you feel like correcting me, go ahead), if not, ask for clarification.

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Block all social media sites and exercise on daily basis…

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@a_seeker_of_wisdom It’s up to you.

NoFap hard mode means you wish to rewire your brain. It’s the best form if NoFap to improve yourself, and a lot of people, myself included, follow it. In this forum, a majority of the people follow it.

NoFap easy mode is not as good, but a lot people do it as well, where you can masturbate but don’t watch p*. Those following this discipline of NoFap can be found here (a few) and on the noFap subreddit and official page.

The aim of NoFap is to rewire your brain. You should no longer associate p* with pleasure. If you are on hard more NoFap, any PMO is relapse, even if it’s just an image. If your imagine (fantasize) and masturbate it’s also relapse. Wetdreams are not a relapse.

If you are doing something productive and a provocative picture comes up but you immediately close it, without fantasizing or anything, it’s not a relapse. But it’s advisable to stay away from social media while on NoFap.

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Next time, be aware of this felling and if you cant fell for it, you cant relapse.

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May I suggest you use EasyPeasy Book and Quit all at once…
At 17 you are in a much better place to quit …EASILY and QUICKLY…
Unlike others here you can do it in less time.

Attached herewith is the Link of my post on the subject.

Good Luck

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thank you very much for the advice, even being simple :slight_smile:

I get it, now I feel much more motivated and determinated because I understand (or maybe I think I understand) the fine line between both.
My final objective is to get rid of this mentality or, as you said, not to relate pornography with pleasure. However, I believe it isn’t possible to force such a radical change without doing it gradually. So I’m trying to find a middle term between both.
For now I’ll try to follow your advices and see what happens and then I’ll decided what to do or look for more suggestions in the forum.
Thank you very much for all of your support. :slight_smile:

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Makes sense, I’ll try to keep that in mind, thank you very much for your help :slight_smile:

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@a_seeker_of_wisdom Define middle term? What does that imply? There cannot be any compromise regarding PMO.

Just asking cause I want to see your questions answered.

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Wow, I’ve never thought there would be so many apps out there with this purpose, it is amazing the amount of things in the internet that I’ve discovered within a couple of weeks. I’m glad you’ve told that, thank you very much @bb1508

@Ash_Matt
Alright then, I’ll try to do it as whole as you said.
Actually I can’t think of a way of answering these questions. Anyway, now I will keep these in mind in order to achieve and not to get out of the track.
Only one more question: what does PMO means? (Because I’ve seem this term almost everywhere and I can’t find a convincing meaning only by researching on the internet, and I feel like I’m losing something by not knowing its meaning.)

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Well, for me PMO means

  1. Pornography- the act of using images or one’s imagination for lustful pruposes or to satiate one’s lust in anyway, with or without masturbation
  2. Masturbation- it is what it is
  3. Orgasm- sorry, I’m unsure of the difference between 2 and 3, but remember, no edging- watching anything from a lustful desire is relapse.

Its going to be really hard, I’ll admit. My brain still craves the dopamine, but remember, your mind is not your master.

Besides, when was doing the easy thing any fun? Lol 'aight imma go out and get some pain. Easy is for kids.

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I see, now I think I can understand better the purposes of NoFap and this forum as a whole. Thank you so much for spending your time helping me! I’ll make sure to remember all of these advices.

lol let’s have some fun then

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Sure thing! That’s what we’re here for.
My sharing code: zs7f7h
What’s yours?

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Let’s go together, I feel like it will be much easier this way
Mine is: 31rzw6

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Sure. Added you via code.