Hey there !
Well today I know it is kinda weird, but yeah I wanna try talking about quitting porn.
Well many have tried and failed me included and also like I mention people jump right onto porn blocking apps.
Well, lemme say it has been a few touch and goes these past 200 and odd days on nofap. Yeah know my counter say like I am on day 130 or somewhere around there, but the main consecpt I wanna get to is there is days where I still feel like watching porn and for a long period I just feel cut off from that feeling. Like I ain’t interested at it at all.
There is one time I received an inappropriate instagram dm ( I still have instagram yes shocking) but I wasn’t interested into fapping to this girl who sold her body for free to me. ( Wow must be gay then:thinking:)
Well no I ain’t gay and belive me or not I have no porn blocker on my phone and also hold on to your hat as I access google daily, I YouTube daily and wait there is more I don’t have any adult or parent lock on my phone on any applications where explicit content could be on. major respice for disaster right. Well yeah I totally agree. And this seem impossible and must be fake.
Nope, and I don’t wanna brag about it either and as I am at a lot of risk of relapsing one word and porn has won. There is a very fine line and I know it and the risk are there also a wrong invite to someone can push me over the edge. That I know as I mentioned the dirty dm.
But it bothered me alot as the girl was legit and later so dirty in the texts. So I made a plan and immediately removed her.
Why do I even have instagram?
I am a fan of European football and receive my updates on scores games etc. Also I follow a lot of athletic guys I have seen on Youtube as they give good exercise advice and bonus tips on Instagram than on Youtube and also I sometimes chat to my friends there as well especially the ones I lost their number of due to the fact that lost my phone last year.
Why do I YouTube?
Well is it worth mention sometimes it is better to YouTube stuff that to google it as you get better and practical explanations. And awesome tutorials on food, games and as I mentioned workouts.
So how do I manage this?
Well, it is in general is tough at the beginning especially if you are day one of the journey. So does this mean lock your phone away aswell for a week or so?
Well for me nope, but the method I apply to this is rather than spending time scrolling through endless nude pics and porn on Insta or where ever I use my phone for the specific task I need it to do. Play games even if I am bored( super kid like) obviously offline games as it kills the temptation.
I play a variety of games, but I am kinda stuck at Sudoku and crosswords at the moment as it pulls all my focus towards thinking about the task at hand. But I don’t really need to go on sudoku or it when I am bored as I do play games on the ps3 and also read or study languages.
Sure I sound very pro-active and an overachiever on this type of field, but like I want to say is I have conditioned myself towards my app usage and also have shifted my focus on specific needs within the apps.
Do I believe in porn blockers?
Well, no I don’t as you probably seen in my previous post I said we bypass them alot or delete and reinstall them later and I think of it as it is like a parent telling don’t do it and your are the kid but you rather ignore the parent and do it anyways. So why does it help me if it leads me more into temptation? It is like giving a drunk keys to the bottles store sure the is an obstacle, but if you want something ypu can overcome any obsticals trust me.
I also laughed so hard when I watched based Zeuses video on nofap. He was like roughly and some in my own words " fap in your nofap journet don’t stop yourself from fapping if you cut it of completely you’ll do it eventually. The only trick to it is set a time to fap for yourself like at midnight and don’t shift it if you can stay up till then to fap you won’t feel like doing it anymore either to tired to do it or you fell asleep. "
So basically I am following that same aproach so if a see a girl on Insta it is okay for me she is a trigger, but my ideas have evolved so far to not act apon it in a fap way but rather I hide or unfollow the post. So yeah haven’t set a specific time to watch porn, but rather changed my ways in using my apps. So yeah the risk to be exposed is very high like I said the urge is there to watch it from time to time and here is what I think I wanna point out the Idea of being your own porn blocker really pays out.
What me as my porn blocker?
Well, exactly like that and it is cheap and painless not entirely effortless, but super effective.
The thing is obviously you decide the use of your phone and you know what triggers you and also where you are triggered as well as like me receive an unexpected trigger.
So will this work immediately like a porn blocker, well no sadly this is a bit of hard work as you need to decide which apps you are going to use and what to use it for and also how to limit the use thereof.
Secondly some basic rules to nofap apply here aswell like no phone usage in bed (later it is leaveable, but at first totally applicable for atleast a month or so) no phones in the bathroom ( also atleast for a week or so even music apps are disallowed here) avoid using your phone in a trigger area maybe at your gf house( sounds dumb but urges run high there) or any place you regularly go to watch porn.
Lastly don’t poke the bear by joke tiping in porn or any concept thereof. You’ll only screw yourself over this one trust me I did this in the past and even watched small videos and said it didn’t bother me, but it is not the point. The thing is you’ll get hooked on it again and have to reassess and begin your whole ideals and apply strict rules again in order to feel comfortable to use your phone.
Be comfortable in using your phone or device also makes you feel more confident into avoiding using it for porn. Should a random or sudden trigger come through a dm or so focus on deleting and unfollow it immediately! Just stay calm and don’t act upon the urge rather learn to handle these small triggers in a calm and natural way as possible!
Let’s chat about it I would like your views and comments on it!
Thanks for the read and support and good luck stay strong and awesome!