I want to fuck these sexual thoughts

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Females are not an object, we all know that. Fighting with masturbation is easier as compared to sexual thoughts.

But apart from porn and masturbation addiction, I’m also addicted to sexual thoughts which get wake up in my mind whenever I see any beautiful girl.

And somehow sesual thoughts are the main reason why I’m struggling like this. Most of the times, I did relapsed even when my body don’t want to.

How to fuck these thoughts, I want to clean my mind. In my 19 days no fap journey, I reduced this shit a lot. Like before, I don’t get these thoughts always may be because I stop socials and all. But still sometimes it kinda impossible to stop them for someone.

I don’t want to imagine their figure :x:, private parts :x: anymore. I want to be a good person :white_check_mark:, I want to view girls from a different angle :white_check_mark:, I want to feel their inner beauty :white_check_mark:. I want to be a gentleman.

I want to talk to them, help them, make them friends, build good relationship but this shit stops me.

I feels guilty :sweat::disappointed:

Girls are not an object for me, I respect them a lot, a lot.

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Don’t focus so much on being this or that with girls
Focus on yourself and you will do better

Or in other words

Don’t run after them, if you are worthy you will get their friendship or whatever

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Bro you’re looking it from a wrong perspective. Its not like I’m dying or running for someone.

Isn’t stopping these things makes me better? And these thoughts are the main triggers for me.

I want to change my perspective of viewing, not asking advice so i can date someone lol

Fk date, I want to make myself better…thats it

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In that case, you can only change your thoughts throught true knowledge…
Knowledge about self, others

Who are you ?
Who is that ?
What’s uoru purpose ?
Why are you here ?

Etc

Wish you all the best in your quest for answers

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Have a wrist band and everytime you have that thoughts, smack your wrist hard. That’s how I trained my mind to change it’s pathways.

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I’m going to tell you the SECRET to do this!

In one word: COMPASSION!

Your brain objectifies the body of woman… Don’t be ashamed, psychology studies show that even women do the same with other women.

When you are in front of a woman… Remember:

  • Just like you, this person is seeking some happiness for her life
  • Just like you, this person is trying to avoid suffering in her life
  • Just like you, this person has known sadness, loneliness and despair
  • Just like you, this person is seeking to fulfil her needs
  • Just like you, this person is learning about life

Ask you:

  • What could be the fears of this woman?
  • What could be the dreams of this woman?
  • What could be the story of this woman?
  • What could be the sufferings of this woman?
  • What could be the joys of this woman?

The more you try to understand the woman in front of you, the less your brain can see her as an object. The more you do it, the more your brain understand the singularity of each woman.

I recommend this same processes with racism, homophobia, etc.

You have to connect deeply with others! Your life will be transformed if you practice this exercise.

You’ll definitely change!

You can trust me.

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After reading this, I felt something special feeling… can’t elaborate that :smiling_face_with_three_hearts:. Something changed for sure : )

I trust you, and I think I must read this every single day to transform my thoughts, to train my mind.

I wasn’t like this before, Pornography filled my mind with bullshits. I will fight and eliminate those all one day :triumph:

Thanks for sharing your kind words. The way you wrote everywhere is literally amazing :grimacing: Are you a writer?

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Nice! When you are able to have compassion for others, you allow yourself to do the same for you.

I’m not a writer. English is not my native language. Thank you for your compliment ^^

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If you are in the early stages of your streak or you have just started then all these thoughts are normal due to sudden interruption in the supply of demand you are remembering or imagining everything. Give it a time and accept the thoughts as you will progress it will shade of. Don’t stress to much trust the process.

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If these wouldn’t fade away, thn I will kick them out

Everything will be beautiful and better thn ever :heart: :heart_eyes:

Thanks for your support brothers : )