I need some serious fucking help

I’ve been relapsing like fucking crazy and I’m really trying my best but I don’t know what’s happing my highest day is 10 and I just can’t even get to day 3 anymore is there anything you guys can say that can motivate me please say it and be mean if you like I probably need it given my circumstances. :sob:

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I’m in the same position. I know exactly what you mean. I had no real progress in this regard. Recently however I’ve reached week before I relapsed.

The thing is to distract your mind and get busy. Try to completely forget about your “shaming routine”. Shift your focus into your good habits and healthy activities. Get rid of any triggering objects and avoid the pattern which might lead to relapse.

Build up the fundamentals for your new, better routine. Implement, test and adjust it to your personal needs and availability. Then be consistent with it.

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Thanks man I’ll try that and see if it works and what’s your sharing code so we can go day to day together.

Mine is: cb1499

I’ve also had a dark period in which I kept relapsing. However, I’ve changed a habit which helped me a lot.

I now keep my bedroom electronics-free, which means no more late-night sessions or PMO as soon as I wake up. Instead I read a book until I’m too tired and fall asleep.

Best of luck!

My code is
41fea1

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You can try to leave all the gadgets exercise, socialise, go hunting, anything that makes mental stimulation from natural world. Its part of rewiring. Just expect imperfections in the beginning.

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Stay away from social media! It will only make you feel lonely

Develop a morning exercise routine. Do a routine you know or find a YouTube video that you like and aim at doing it first thing in the morning.

Don’t stay at home! Go out, whether to do exercises or meet friends, but don’t be on your own! The longer you stop with PMO, the easier it gets, but you’re never risk free.

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Same me too. But it’s my depression and the isolated feeling that makes me edge and relapse every 2-4 days.
Just now I binged 3 times in an autopilot mode because I can barely deal with the worsening depression, loneliness, and isolated feeling.

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The problem is, I have rejection and abandonment issues. I also have quite severe depression since January (maybe). So it’s not even that easy for me to just start a routine like that.

I’m going through a similar stage. I’ve relapsed after 60 days and I am binging like crazy. I can’t even go 1 day. Still though, I agree that you need to search yourself and find things that interest you. I don’t know about you but I’ve always enjoyed learning magic tricks. I love seeing people react positively and the smile magic gives them. I can recommend a few people online if you’re interested.

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@SirNuttyy just focus on today, one day at a time. Plan your day and leave your home to walk if you need to. It sounds like the Chaser Effect has taken over. I struggle with that too. I love the days when the urges are weak, or very few.

Don’t think repeatedly about relapsing, try not to fantasize. This will pass. Good luck man, no need to beat you up with words. We all share in this struggle with you.

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I didn’t think I would get so many replies from people that are going thru the same thing that I’m going thru it warms my heart :heart:

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I think that getting discouraged is one thing that can hurt people way more than they think. The difference between feeling guilt and feeling discouraged is that discouragement is saying I’m bad and guilt is saying that the thing i did is bad. We should feel guilt. Discouragement will only set us back. Know what you did is wrong, figure out why you failed and move on.