*Note: this got really long soooo…basics: social media/no work out -boom- got quite close to relapse…and now for the overly long explanation:
I am on my longest streak ever on this app. A streak of 12 DAYS! I felt like I was doing good, but then I got a bunch of temptations. I thought it may just be a normal thing that starts to happen at this point, which may be partially true, but I just realized what else has happened. I somewhat accidentally weened myself back into social media. I had the idea that I wanted people to know me a bit more and I wanted to support my friends posts and also post some fun little things of my own that won’t make people feel bad about themselves (like many posts do). I also wanted to share my nerdy side through story feature. It seemed quite relevant at the time. Like a good idea. I still think it is a good idea, but the problem comes in that social media is made to lure you in and keep you there. Not for how I am using it, at least not primarily. So now I am in sort of a dilemma here. I have been doing good and haven’t relapsed, but I been tempted and have sat down with the intention of relapsing and getting quite close before I caught myself. It feels like a choice between being known/improving my social life or stopping MO. Hard decision for a generally shy dude.
The other thing that happened is that I normally workout out side by myself in a fairly non visible open area. It is the only place I can really get myself to work out. It has been bad weather or I have been busy lately and have not worked out for a little while. It was one of the things that really helped me into this streak in the first place.
So, social media and no work out. I think these are some of my main issues. One I can fix, one…I am not sure. That would be the social media. Well, I wrote quite a bit. Just feel like I need to get it out. Maybe it feels like it makes it more real or something. If you read this far…you have a long attention span…and also thank you for taking the time. If you have any advice or personal experiences I would love to hear it! Thanks!
1: remove the brainwashing from society and the internet thats telling you porn is interesting
2: wait out the withdrawal period. Its not long and its not that bad. 4 weeks and youre definitely good to go
So the key is not getting brainwashed by apps etc. Stay away from sites where you know you ll get blasted at some point with something thats sexual like 9gag etc. where lewd posts exist. You should also read EasyPeasy (easypeasymethod.org) to “un-brainwash” yourself. Thats it
yeah nothing helped, I couldnt escape for years, then I read it and it was over. Thank god someone recommended it to me here on rewirecompanion, that seriously saved me
Ive been in the trap for a REALLY long time, even before porn, just masturbation was an escape for me when I was going through stress and I could never fully escape the addiction. Reading the book thoroughly took about one week, its not even a real book its just a big pdf, its not that long. If you like you can read it in a day. It makes more sense to spread it out though so your unconcious absorbs all the good information. Eversince reading it I didnt feel like going for another session. I lasted like 4 months without an issue and then stopped caring so much that I replapsed out of carelessness. Then I didnt really pay attention to the habit until I was kind of in it again and realized I needed to read the book again and it worked, Im not hooked anymore. I dont care about masturbation and there is nothing to care about! Its pesky, annoying stuff that normal people dont have to deal with. When we feel urges, those urges are non existent to non-addicts. And just not going on 9gag etc helps. Dont go where they imply porn is precious, thats the brainwashing
Ah, so would you say it would still help me if I don’t have a porn problem? I just basically have an over-masturbating and masterbating to other bad thoughts. Does it address this too?
Ah, so would you say it would still help me if I don’t have a ■■■■ problem? I just basically >have an over-masturbating and masterbating to other bad thoughts. Does it address this >too?
yeah 100%, it contains a few important things: 1) masturbation is not sacred, and its actually pesky and annoying and there are zero advantages to masturbating 2) The urge to masturbate STEMS from masturbating, in reality there is no real need for masturbation and there exists a withdrawal period that only takes a few weeks and then the “need” is over and you made it out
(Sorry for asking so many questions)
why?
Keep asking
Well then I will have to try. Thank you!
And thank you for telling me about this @NukePizza !
