How to take the next step

[jks1026]

Hi everyone, I need some advice.

Thanks to a lot of things I have made amazing strides in no pmo in the past year. A year ago I would fall at least twice a week. Since then I’ve had a 63 day streak, followed by a 170 day streak, followed by an 80 day streak (which I’m currently on). While I’ve made these great big steps, I’m having trouble taking the next steps. I have some things in place that help keep me from pmo. For example, I mostly fall into pmo at night, so I always turn my phone off and go to bed by 10:30. I also avoid certain social media and limit screen time in addition to having porn blocking apps. However, my two issues are: not always following through with those things I keep in place, and also indulging on thoughts that lead me into porn/masturbation. 90% of the time I do follow my plans by Turing my phone off, getting to bed early, etc. But when I don’t, I come close to falling. How can I make sure I do a better job of consistently following through with this? Also, I struggle dealing with impure thoughts that lead me to start to look at things. I won’t immediately look at porn, but I’ll look at suggestive or seductive pictures that often slowly lead me into porn. It’s as if I trick myself by justifying looking at say women in bikinis because it isn’t porn, but it also isn’t good. Luckily I stop myself before I actually get to porn or masturbation, but I’d rather not start this slippery slope to begin with. How can I better control my thoughts and do a better job if saying no right away?

I hope this doesn’t come across as rude, but I’d just like to say that anyone who is going to say “just try hard,” “just do it” or “just follow through,” no offense but it’s not helpful. So if you have something like that to say please don’t bother, but if you have some real advice I’d be happy to hear it.

Thanks for the help!

[willyg]

Try this out…

It definitely works better if encrypted in your own belief system but for eg:- think of these seductive thoughts as demons of some kind.

Being a male I personally believe that all women in this world are trying to get to me by taking my precious semen away and all women have a crazy power to manipulate a man’s will power to give in and control their thought and repress decision making and clear thinking…

This is of course not true generally speaking but I truly believe it is… So every time I think I wanna watch a beautiful woman, etc. I just think to my slef… These demons are back at it again wanting to control my thoughts and mentally process it as physical entity trying to corrupt my thought, followed by that I immediately grab some work or something else to occupy me

every time anything triggers me
I go… There is tht bitch again trying to trick me into wasting my semen… Fuck you bitch… You ain’t controlling me for shit…

You can also think it’s the devil Making you sin, giving temptation…
Or you can think of it in terms of science…

Where your brain releases Delta phosphine, which is activated when you repeatedly do an activity that releases a lot of dopamine(in this case Jacking to porn) .
It’s kinda like what an urge would look like chemically speaking…

The key is to break the thought pattern at the moment of internal or external trigger…

The key to reducing compulsive behavior is not less consciousness/awareness but more consciousness/awareness.