Hi everyone, I need some advice.
Thanks to a lot of things I have made amazing strides in no pmo in the past year. A year ago I would fall at least twice a week. Since then I’ve had a 63 day streak, followed by a 170 day streak, followed by an 80 day streak (which I’m currently on). While I’ve made these great big steps, I’m having trouble taking the next steps. I have some things in place that help keep me from pmo. For example, I mostly fall into pmo at night, so I always turn my phone off and go to bed by 10:30. I also avoid certain social media and limit screen time in addition to having porn blocking apps. However, my two issues are: not always following through with those things I keep in place, and also indulging on thoughts that lead me into porn/masturbation. 90% of the time I do follow my plans by Turing my phone off, getting to bed early, etc. But when I don’t, I come close to falling. How can I make sure I do a better job of consistently following through with this? Also, I struggle dealing with impure thoughts that lead me to start to look at things. I won’t immediately look at porn, but I’ll look at suggestive or seductive pictures that often slowly lead me into porn. It’s as if I trick myself by justifying looking at say women in bikinis because it isn’t porn, but it also isn’t good. Luckily I stop myself before I actually get to porn or masturbation, but I’d rather not start this slippery slope to begin with. How can I better control my thoughts and do a better job if saying no right away?
I hope this doesn’t come across as rude, but I’d just like to say that anyone who is going to say “just try hard,” “just do it” or “just follow through,” no offense but it’s not helpful. So if you have something like that to say please don’t bother, but if you have some real advice I’d be happy to hear it.
Thanks for the help!