How to get rid of this weird addiction

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I was never into porn much,but yeah I seldomly used to masturbate by watching a porn. Most of the time,I used to masturbate by secretly watching my neighborhood aunty. ( of course without letting her notice me) I know this is creepy,but I can’t help myself as soon as I get to see her. I have gotten addicted to her sexy curves,I badly desire her. Although I have started nofap to avoid this strange addiction,I’m on my 42 days streak. Yesterday I had strong urges to jerk off to her but somehow i managed to control myself

Please if you know how to stop this addiction, kindly help me :pray:

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Change your place for some times. If you’re studying ask your parents to help you pay rent of a room near your school/college. If you’re working you may relocate near your office.

But Don’t give an excuse of financial issue. Trust me this investment brings you billion.

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Thanks buddy
Good idea
Just wondering if there are any other suggestions for me

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My standard list of urge-killing activities:

  • Cold shower. Coldest it will go. 5 to 10 minutes. Guaranteed no urges anymore.
  • 20 push ups, might need more depending on your strength level.
  • Go to the toilet to relieve pressure from your bladder
  • Brush teeth to make yourself feel fresh.
  • Look in the mirror. Look at yourself. Do this for at least 2 minutes straight.

Now, a story:
I used to go into the park quite often, to do my gymnastics exercises. I would hang my rings on a sturdy tree branch, and do all sorts of exercises. A little further up, behind some bushes, is a bench. People often sit here to have a rest on their walks. One day, I was out there training, and an elderly man, about 65 I’d say, sits down there, right as I arrive. I don’t think much of it, and start my exercises. After some time, 15 minutes or so, he’s still there. I catch him looking at me occasionally. I don’t think much of it, he’s probably bored and looking for any social contact he can get. Elderly people get lonely sometimes. Half an hour later, he’s still watching. In the mean time, he’s still watching me, and every time I look back at him, he nonchalantly looks away, acting like he wasn’t looking. I was annoyed by this. He must find what I’m doing very interesting. Some time later, I see him wacking off. He’s furiously masturbating, while he’s peeking at me! My heart is racing, I don’t know what to do. I’m scared. I hide myself, out of his sight. I left quickly. I was still trying to comprehend what had happened. I was caught off guard by this. I sat on a bench somewhere for half an hour, thinking about what I should do. I decided to go to the police, and report it.

Later that day, I saw my parents. They could tell something was off. I was scared to tell them. I didn’t know how to put it. Eventually, I told them. I cried. I had been the victim of public indecency and it felt like sexual assault. This guy thought he was being smart, but he was not. This guy made me very upset, and I can’t imagine what this would have been like for a girl, or a young child.

I am pleading to you, make this world, or even just your neighbourhood a better place. Stop doing this, please. Use the urge killers I listed. Sooner or later, you will traumatize someone and damage them for life, even if you think you’re smart and clever. It’s way more obvious than you think. It’s good that you’re trying to stop. Don’t turn 60+ and still have this horrible habit. Now is the time to stop. Make your own life better, and make others’ lives better while you’re at it.

Text me if you need help :slight_smile:

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From the contents of what you said,u r male,right ? I think the old man who wanked off was surely a creepy and mentally ill person. Why would a 60+ old man decide to masturbate over a young man ?
I have started this journey to avoid this bad habit. Trust me ,my friend,I don’t have any other bad habit,I don’t smoke or drink. My one and only one problem is that I’m more sexually craved. I’m a 24 years old boy who is still a virgin,been cheated by my ex.

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Yes, I am male.
It’s very, very good of you that you want to stop this bad habit. I don’t smoke or drink either, but that doesn’t take away from the fact that I have an issue with pmo. In one way, this is good news though. You only have one thing to get rid of. Imagine how much more difficult it would be if you were drunk all day. I don’t think it would be easy to abstain then.
Luckily, we are not like that.

I am 18 years old now, and I’m a virgin as well. It doesn’t bother me that I’m a virgin. It’s really not the be-all and end-all. Whether you have had sex or not does not determine your worth. I understand your cravings, but you must learn to control them. Your mind is a muscle, when you use it more, it becomes stronger. Every time you resist an urge, you train your mind muscle. In the past year and a quarter, I’ve been doing nofap, and my sexual cravings have mostly been brought under control. My performance at school, and overall happiness has greatly increased.

Controlling this sexual energy is the key to success in life. If you cannot control it, the next woman you hook up with will know that you need her. She will use you, and cheat on you. You will always be there, disposable, and ready to be used whenever she wants.
When you are able to control your sexual energy, and don’t let women take it away, you can use it to achieve anything. Women will no longer walk over you, because they sense that you don’t need them. They want you. You are not craving them, you have your own business to do in life, and women come second to your own goals. Find a purpose in life, and pursue it. Think about this for a long time. I haven’t completely found mine yet, but it will come.

Learn to control your sexual desires, and become a real man. A child is someone who sees candy and cannot resist grabbing and eating it. A man is one who can control his own actions, and therefore does not masturbate, or need to have sex.

Trust me, a relationship, however healthy it may be, will not solve your own problems. Learn to love yourself, only then can you love another.

If you do this, and take the journey seriously, you will no longer be a 24 year old boy, but a 24 year old man.

Here’s a video to help you out:

Go out there, and achieve greatness!

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Thanks mate !
Your words don’t look like to come from a 18 years old boy. Truly inspiring
Regarding on your comment on women,I want to learn more about women. I was a good nice guy to my ex,never ever abused her verbally or physically. I was always there whenever she needed me most. Yet she cheated on me. May it is because of my own auro which was bad at the time bc I used to wank off by watching porn
Ever since she left me,my view on women has changed,I used to saw as sex object, now after been into nofap journey for quite a while,I feel I was so wrong.
I will change myself and make my parents proud of me one day

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