"HOW TO CONTROL YOUR BRAIN 🧠" ( my new book )

INTRODUCTION:

The idea of Nofap has confirmed the author in his conviction that such a book was needed especially for those who feel depressed and hopeless, sad and lonely, tired, and lazy. He felt like this book will make huge changes in people’s lives and that must be shared all around the world.

First, I would like to thank Rewire Companion for this beautiful opportunity to share this book that I, myself, wrote for those who seek complete self-control by the name of “How to control your brain”.

Once a reader hears this title, he will at mediately get an image of this book and he would be expecting the writer to write about the ways to control once mind, to be more precise, he is waiting for the writer to tell him some tips to do for having complete control over his mind to resist urges. I will talk about those but if we want to get there, first we need to understand a few things in the first few chapters.

These kinds of books are famous all around the world, and everyone loves reading them with Unmatched fun, even if understanding is difficult, the true reader knows that after this short period of difficulty, lies huge benefits and opportunities.

In this book, I will try my best to give what everyone is looking for, from the smallest kid to the biggest adult. Everyone can change. Scientists have shown that you can, no matter how old are you, reprogram your brain. Yes, you heard right. It might be difficult but it’s possible, don’t say it’s possible but it’s difficult.

And indeed, the longer you nurse an addiction to Porn and masturbation, the more challenging recovery can be. That’s because addiction affects your thought and behavior patterns. It leads to dysfunctional ways of thinking and behaving, and these shape your view of yourself, your relationships, addiction, and the world. They can take a devastating toll on your quality of life.

If you have a long-term addiction, you’re likely to be generally unhappy with your life. You may suffer from anxiety or depression and lack energy and enthusiasm. You may have deeply rooted relationship problems with your significant other or others in your household. Legal or financial problems may be causing you intense stress. Physical and mental health problems may begin to take a serious toll on your sense of well-being.

No matter how many years you’ve been on this earth, addiction treatment can help you work through these complex problems and issues. And no matter how many or how few years you have left, treatment can help you make them the best years of all.

You might be reading this because you want to stop this bad addiction, you might be reading this because you’re sick and tired of being a slave to your emotions, and you might be reading this because you want change in your life, because you see something worthy for changing, a small light of hope.

If you are anything like the thousands of other people, then I advise you to read this book which you can understand from it how the brain works, how habits form, and how to quit them.

Greatness is a choice, you can not feel free in life if you are a slave to your emotions, I wish that this book will help you to quit your addiction.

God gives every bird its food but he doesn’t throw it into its nest.

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First chapter will be published after a short period of time :blush:.

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Damn bro, that’s sick, i think you have wrote almost 4 books till now. Keep going Sabeur :clap::clap::clap:.

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Thank you my best friend @Sholt_Peterson :innocent::sparkling_heart:.

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How to control your brain :brain:

Chapter 1: Habits

Habit may be defined roughly as the tendency to act time after time in the same way. Thus defined, you see that the force of habit extends throughout the entire universe. It is a habit for the earth to revolve on its axis once every twenty-four hours and to encircle the sun once every year. When a pencil falls from your hand it has a habit of dropping to the floor. A piece of paper once folded tends to crease in the same place. These are examples of the force of habit in nonliving matter. Living matter shows its power even more clearly. If you assume a petulant expression for some time, it gets fixed and the expression becomes habitual. The hair may be trained to lie this way or that. These are examples of habit in living tissue. But there is one particular form of living tissue which is most susceptible to habit; that is nerve tissue. Let us review briefly the facts which underlie this characteristic. In nerve tissue, impressibility, conductivity and modifiability are developed to a marked degree. The nerve-cells in the sense organs are impressed by stimulations from the outside world. The nervous current thus generated is conducted over long nerve fibers, through the spinal cord to the brain where it is received and we experience a sensation. Thence it pushes on, over association neurones in the brain to motor neurones, over which it passes down the spinal cord again to muscles, and ends in some movement. In the pathway which it traverses it leaves its impression, and, thereafter, when the first neurone is excited, the nervous current tends to take the same pathway and to end in the same movement.

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It should be emphasized that the nervous current, once started, always tends to seek outlet in movement. Movement may be started by the stimulation of a sense organ or by an idea. In the latter case it starts from regions in the brain without the immediately preceding stimulation of a sense organ. Howsoever it starts you may be sure that it seeks a way out, and prefers pathways already traversed. Hence you see you are bound to have habits. They will develop whether you wish them or not. Already you are “a bundle of habits”; they manifest themselves in two ways–as habits of action and habits of thought. You illustrate the first every time you tie your shoes or sign your name. To illustrate the second, I need only ask you to supply the end of this sentence: Happy birthday ----. Speech reveals many of these habits of thought. Certain phrases persist in the mind as habits so that when the phrase is once begun, you proceed habitually with the rest of it. When some one starts “in spite,” your mind goes on to think “of”; “more or” calls up “less.” When I ask you what word is called up by “black,” you reply “white” according to the principles of mental habit. Your mind is arranged in such habitual patterns, and from these examples you readily see that a large part of what you do and think during the course of twenty-four hours is habitual. Twenty years hence you will be even more bound by this overpowering despot.

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Our acts our angels are, or good, or ill, Our constant shadows that walk with us still.

Since you cannot avoid forming habits, how important it is that you seek to form those that are useful and desirable. In acquiring them, there are several general principles deducible from the facts of nervous action. The first is: Guard the pathways leading to the brain. Nerve tissue is impressible and everything that touches it leaves an ineradicable trace. You can control your habits to some extent, then, by observing caution in permitting things to impress you. Many unfortunate habits of study arise from neglect of this. The habit of using a “pony,” for example, arises when one permits oneself to depend upon a group of English words in translating from a foreign language.

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Nerve pathways should then be guarded with respect to what enters. They should also be guarded with respect to the way things enter. Remember, as the first pathway is cut, subsequent nervous currents will be directed. Consequently if you make a wrong pathway, you will have trouble undoing it.

Another maxim which will obviously prevent undesirable pathways is, go slowly at first. This is an important principle in Nofap.You can’t do a forever streak if you relapse 5 times a day, First, you need to be like @Sholt_Peterson, relapse every 24 hours intill you get used to it, then try 48 hours, then 4 days, then a week then 10 days, then 2 weeks, as you reach more than 2 weeks, continue. A Relapse must be one time only. But why? Waiting till the right moment is wrong, it’s right now that you should start, Well, a wise man doesn’t sale his boat if the conditions around him and inside of him arn’t stable. But, if he waits , make a plan, a strategy, feel confident, decide once and for all to stop it, then and only then, he will have a very hight chance of success. The next rule is: Guard the exits of the nervous currents. That is, watch the movements you make in response to impressions and ideas. This is necessary because the nervous current pushes on past obstructions, through areas in the brain, until it ends in some form of movement, and in finding the way out, it seeks those pathways that have been most frequently travelled. In study, it usually takes the form of movements of speech or writing. You will need to guard this part of the process just as you did the incoming pathway You must see that the movement is made which you wish to build into a habit. In learning the pronunciation of a foreign word, for example, see that your first pronunciation of it is absolutely right. When learning to typewrite see that you always hit the right key during the early trials. The point of exit of a nervous current is the point also where precautions are to be taken in developing good form. The path should be the shortest possible, involving only those muscles that are absolutely necessary. This makes for economy of effort.

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In addition to the principles just discussed, there are a number of other maxims which have been laid down as guides in the formation of new habits.

The first is, make an assertion of will. Vow to yourself that you will form the habit, and keep that resolve ever before you.

The second maxim is, make an emphatic start. Surround yourself with every aid possible. Make it easy at first to perform the act and difficult not to perform it. For example, if you desire to form the habit of arising at six every morning, surround yourself with a number of aids. Buy an alarm clock, and tell some one of your decision. Such efforts at the start “will give your new beginning such a momentum that the temptation to break down will not occur as soon as it otherwise might; and every day during which a breakdown is postponed adds to the chances of its not occurring at all.” Man has discovered the value of such devices during the course of his long history, and has evolved customs accordingly. When men decide to swear off smoking, they choose the opening of a new year when many other new things are being started; they make solemn promises to themselves, to each other, and finally to their friends. Such customs are precautions which help to bolster up the determination at the time when extraordinary effort and determination are required. In forming the habits incidental to college life, take pains from the start to surround yourself with as many aids as possible. This will not constitute a confession of weakness. It is only a wise and natural precaution which the whole experience of the race has justified. The third maxim is, never permit an exception to occur. Suppose you have a habit of saying “aint” which you wish to replace with a habit of saying “isn’t.” If the habit is deeply rooted, you have worn a pathway in the brain to a considerable depth, represented in the accompanying diagram by the line A X B.

A | X / \ B C

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Let us suppose that you have already started the new habit, and have said the correct word ten times. That means you have worn another pathway A X C to a considerable depth. During all this time, however, the old pathway is still open and at the slightest provocation will attract the nervous current. Your task is to deepen the new path so that the nervous current will flow into it instead of the old. Now suppose you make an exception on some occasion and allow the nervous current to travel over the old path. This unfortunate exception breaks down the bridge which you had constructed at X from A to C. But this is not the only result. The nervous current, as it revisits the old path, deepens it more than it was before, so the next time a similar situation arises, the current seeks the old path with much greater readiness than before, and vastly more effort is required to overcome it. Some one has likened the effect of these exceptions to that produced when one drops a ball of string that is partially wound. By a single slip, more is undone than can be accomplished in a dozen windings.

The fourth maxim is, seize every opportunity to act upon your resolution. The reason for this will be understood better if you keep in mind the fact, stated before, that nervous currents once started, whether from a sense-organ or from a brain-center, always tend to seek egress in movement. These outgoing nervous currents leave an imprint upon the modifiable nerve tissues as inevitably as do incoming impressions. Therefore, if you wish your resolves to be firmly fixed, you should act upon them speedily and often. “It is not in the moment of their forming, but in the moment of their producing motor effects, that resolves and aspirations communicate the new ‘set’ to the brain.” “No matter how full a reservoir of maxims one may possess, and no matter how good one’s sentiments may be, if one has not taken advantage of every concrete opportunity to act, one’s character may remain entirely unaffected for the better.” Particularly at time of emotional excitement one makes resolves that are very good, and a glow of fine feeling is present. Beware that these resolves do not evaporate in mere feeling. They should be crystallized in some form of action as soon as possible. “Let the expression be the least thing in the world–speaking genially to one’s grandmother, or giving up one’s seat in a … car, if nothing more heroic offers–but let it not fail to take place.” Strictly speaking you have not really completed a resolve until you have acted upon it. You may determine to go without lunch, but you have not consummated that resolve until you have permitted it to express itself by carrying you past the door of the dining-room. That is the crucial test which determines the strength of your resolve. Many repetitions will be required before a pathway is worn deep enough to be settled. Seize the very earliest opportunity to begin grooving it out, and seize every other opportunity for deepening it.

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After this view of the place in your life occupied by habit, you readily see its far-reaching possibilities for welfare of body and mind. Its most obvious, because most annoying, effects are on the side of its disadvantages. Bad habits secure a grip upon us that we are sometimes powerless to shake off. True, this ineradicableness need have no terrors if we have formed good habits. Indeed, as will be pointed out in the next paragraph, habit may be a great asset. Nevertheless, it may work positive harm, or at best, may lead to stagnation. The fixedness of habit tends to make us move in ruts unless we exert continuous effort to learn new things. If we permit ourselves to move in old grooves we cease to progress and become “old fogy.”

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But the advantages of habit far outweigh its disadvantages. Habit helps the individual to be consistent and helps people to know what to expect from one. It helps society to be stable, to incorporate within itself modes of action conducive to the common good. For example, the respect which we all have for the property of others is a habit, and is so firmly intrenched that we should find ourselves unable to steal if we wished to. Habit is thus a very desirable asset and is truly called the “enormous fly-wheel of society.”

A second advantage of habit is that it makes for accuracy. Acts that have become habitualized are performed more accurately than those not habitualized. Movements such as those made in typewriting and piano-playing, when measured in the psychological laboratory, are found to copy each other with extreme fidelity. The human body is a machine which may be adjusted to a high degree of nicety, and habit is the mechanism by which this adjustment is made.

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A third advantage is that a stock of habits makes life easier. “There is no more miserable human being than one in whom nothing is habitual but indecision, for whom the lighting of every cigar, the drinking of every cup, the time of rising and going to bed every day and the beginning of every bit of work, are subjects of express volitional deliberation. Full half the time of such a man goes to the deciding or regretting of matters which ought to be so ingrained in him as practically not to exist for his consciousness at all.” Have you ever reflected how miserable you would be and what a task living would be if you had to learn to write anew every morning when you go to class; or if you had to relearn how to tie your necktie every day? The burden of living would be intolerable.

The forth advantage to be discerned in habit is economy. Habitual acts do not have to be actively directed by consciousness. While they are being performed, consciousness may be otherwise engaged. “The more of the details of our daily life we can hand over to the effortless custody of automatism, the more our higher powers of mind will be set free for their own proper work.” While you are brushing your hair or tying your shoes, your mind may be engaged in memorizing poetry or calculating arithmetical problems. Habit is thus a great economizer.

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The last adventage of Habits is that it makes Nofap a life changing Habit. It will also accelerate it’s benefits mentally, physically, socially, etc… Nofap could be the reason to change your whole intire life. Make Nofap your good habits goals, not only to escape Masturbation’s side effects. Most known good habits in Nofap are:

  1. Sleep enough

  2. Wake up early

  3. Drink lots of water

  4. Prayer

  5. Meditation

  6. Breathing

  7. Exercising

  8. Cold showers

  9. Healthy food

  10. Play instruments

  11. Reading

  12. Studying

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The ethical consequences of habit are so striking that before leaving the subject we must give them acknowledgment. We can do no better than to turn to the statement by Professor James, whose wise remarks upon the subject have not been improved upon:

"The physiological study of mental conditions is thus the most powerful ally of hortatory ethics. The hell to be endured hereafter, of which theology tells, is no worse than the hell we make for ourselves in this world by habitually fashioning our characters in the wrong way. That’s when bad Habits get in place or as I like to call it “Addiction”. But that’s a story for another Chapter of “How to control your brain :brain:

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Extremely awesome my friend… Keep going​:+1::ok_hand::ok_hand:

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I figured out that people don’t read too long articals so I will post parts of each chapter.

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Chapter 2: Addiction

Part 1: The Reward System

If you want to stop PMO, you must know first how your brain is affected by details you never heard before:

Primitive circuits in the brain govern emotions, drives, impulses, and subconscious decision-making. They do their jobs so efficiently that evolution hasn’t seen the need to change them much since before humans were humans. The desire and motivation to pursue sex arises from a neurochemical called “Dopamine”. Dopamine amps up the centerpiece of the primitive part of the brain known as “The reward circuitry”. It’s where you experience cravings and pleasure and where you get addicted.

This ancient reward circuitry compels you to do things that further tour survival and pass on your genes. At the top of our human reward list are:
1_ Food
2_ Sex
3_ Love
4_ Friendship
5_ Novelty

These are called “natural reinforces” as contrasted with addictive chemicals ( which can hijack the same circuitry ).

The evolutionary purpose of Dopamine is to motivate you to do what serves your genes. The bigger the squirt, the more you want something. No Dopamine? and you just ignore it.

Although Dopamine is sometimes referred to as the “pleasure molecule”, It’s actually about seeking and searching for pleasure, not pleasure Itself. Thus, Dopamine rises with anticipation. It’s your motivation and drives to pursue potential pleasure or long-term goals.

The pleasure of climax appears to rise from opioids. So think of Dopamine as wanting and opioids as liking. As psychologist Susan Weinshenk explained: " Dopamine causes us to want, desire, seek out and search. Yet, the Dopamine system is stronger than the opioid system. We seek more than we satisfy." Seeking is more likely to keep us alive than sitting around in a satisfied stupor.

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Chapter 2: Addiction

Part 2: Novelty, Novelty, More Novelty!!:

Sexual Novelty ( essentially porn ) can create Dopamine surging. Ever heard of the “Coolidge Effect”? It’s a graphic example of how unrelentingly sexual Novelty can drive behaviour. The effect shows up in mammals surging from rams to rats, and here’s how it works:
Drop a male rat into the cage with a receptive female rat. First, you see a frenzy copulation. Then, progressively, the male tires from that particular female. Even if she wants more he has had enough.

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However, replace the original female with a fresh one, and the male will immediately revives and gallantly struggles to fertilize her. You can repeat this process with other fresh female rats until he is completely wiped out.

This experiment confirmed that Dopamine level rises at the first time of any fun activity but doesn’t last enough in the absence of Novelty. Imagine if you want to eat a Burger, mmmm, it’s so tasty. And now, repeat the same process over and over again, at breakfast, at lunch, and dinner, never mind the fatness, you won’t feel the same enjoyment as before and after a short period of time, this Burger will disgust you. Just like porn, which is the biggest representer of Novelty in each click, Dopamine levels never stop rising, rising more than usual. What will happen? your brain will think that this Dopamine dose is the normal one. Especially when you have negative feelings such as anxiety, boredom, stress, etc… Your brain wants to take the easiest pathway for enjoyment, which is what? “Porn”.
But what about Masturbation? I never got bored of it ( before masturbating ).
Well you see, this question brings as to another question: How can you masturbate?

Masturbation depends on what you are thinking of. Can you masturbate if you are thinking of its side effects? or thinking about today’s tasks? or even thinking about eating food? No.
You masturbate when you are thinking of sexual fantasies. These sexual fantasie"s" ( plural ≈ novelty again ) enter your brain and hey! there is another, more powerful, more beautiful, more short pathway - - > Masturbation.
Porn is like sexual fantasies replacer.
Porn is the most common cause for masturbation.

Porn:

Chance for masturbating: 78.34%

Sexual fantasies:

Chance for masturbating: 38.63%

Close to 40% difference. This shows how Porn has a huge effect on masturbation.

Conclusion:

Dopamine surges:

1_ Endless sexual Novelty
2_ Violation of expectations
3_ Searching and seeking
4_ Anticipation of what’s next
5_ Shock and surprise
6_ Anxiety ( increases sexual Arousal )

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