How not to watch porn?

I’m on day 17, and i watched porn last night, but i didnt fap, just watching, and i dont want to watch it anymore because i’m afraid i will fap, but recently i have a strong desire, i kind of fighting myself, the other me want to watch porn, and the other me dont want to watch porn, please help me, i want to quit not only fapping but also watching porn, please help me

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I feel you man. Quitting both porn and masturbation is not easy. Often you find yourself fighting two different versions of yourself in your head. One version of you wants to relapse, “Come on, it’s fun!” or “Man I just really need a break right now, need some relief”. But the other version of you, the true version tries to fight back.

However, I find that it’s super hard to give the true version of you a voice. It seems like no matter how much I wanted to be clean, when an urge came, my good intentions were drowned out by the pull to relapse.

But two things that I have found useful in overcoming these urges and giving the true you a voice, are mindfulness and discipline.

Mindfulness is the act of understanding what’s going on inside your head. To become mindful, it takes doing things like journaling, writing down what your urges are saying and writing down your counter-arguments, learning to block out fantasizing in your head, and generally staying concious of what your thoughts are at key moments.

In regards to discipline, I mean doing things like making your bed every morning, taking up running, and taking cold showers. These things are good for building up your willpower and will carry over to all parts of your life, including resisting urges and staying consistent on your strategies for beating this.

Both of these things require a bit of learning, trial and error, flexibility, and constant effort. But once you get going in utilizing them, they become beyond helpful.

If you want to me to elaborate on any of the strategies just let me know! Additionally I’ll be writing a “90 Days Clean” post in 4 days when I reach 90, and there I will go into detail about these things.

Anyway, I wish you luck man! Keep fighting :muscle:

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Thank You, Man. Do i have to go back to day 0 because i watched porn?

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Looking forward to your 90 days clean post :blush:

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If you’re targeting hard mode, then yes.

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Important to stop both. I didn’t when I gave up trying to overcome the problem. Just became numb. Now clean from both for 7 days. We will conquer together.

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As everyone else said, yes, if you are planning on quitting both, then it is a relapse.

Be careful though, this does not mean you are starting over, it just means you hit a roadblock, but you are continuing forward. Don’t get down on yourself, get back up and keep fighting.

If you see setting the counter to 0 as a complete reset of your progress, then it’s easy to get into a post-relapse binge since you might reason “I am already at the bottom, so why not look at porn or fap?” This is a dangerous thought, and will only lead you to delay your progress and bring you back into the folds of your addiction.

Stay strong man :muscle:

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Let me clear your double mindset.

I am telling you straight… choose one side. Whatever side you choose… stay true to it … your whole life. Dont hang in between for too long.

There are 2 kinds of person who enjoy in this world :
:black_small_square:1st person are idiot ones. They think fapping is normal and they believe this. They have no confusion about it. So… they live a normal & mediocre life. They are fools but atleast they stay true to their beliefs.
:black_small_square:2nd person are wise. They know sexual desire & pleasure are just eating into oneself… that means… you are making yourself weak by yourself. They achieve their true potential and they achieve their goal of life. They are 1% of the world population. Normal people think they are gifted. But… no… They have a higher intelligence & focus. They have good health. Hence… they are always ahead of fappers.

Regarding Your Relapse :
I say if it is possible to forget and move on with your current streak… you have not Relapsed.

Believe me… It is not possible to carry on edging without Orgasm.
There are stages & limit in this.
When someone crosses that limit… he cant go back.
Luckily you have not reached that limit yet.
Good Luck.

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