Hi I need help on how to discipline myself motivation seems useless and i hate it now.I lack discipline in my studies and on no fap.Btw im writting this in the middle of a science exam because i cant concentrate im on no fap day2,I usually relapse a lot on day 2.I want to make it to day 3 buti have been fantazising since morning I did cold shower, i felt relief for 30 minutes but then i started to fantazise and now i cant concentrate on this exam and i have 10 more questions to complete.If u can help me out please do.It will help me for the rest of my life
Sorry for wrong grammar im in the middle of the exam and i have only and hour more to complete it so i haad to write this up fast.
turn off your phone. Concentrate on your exam right now. Whichever answer you know,just write it down Otherwise try to guess. If nothing works, just give the paper and come out of the hall. decepline starts from you. You need to change your priority lists and value the things which is there for you. No one can permanently fix or find a solutions.(how) For e.g telling your brain that you can use phone is not decipline ( my way of thinking)
After exam probably ask yourself why and how you can you fix but right now start concentrate on your exam. At least come out of hall by saying yourself you gave your best of your ability by answering the questions.
To be honest, I also don’t have any decipline in my life. But I am sure someday, I am going to figure it out(already in my own journey to figure out my priorities)
Someone said like this,
This is what happens in our life. We are careful with things which we value most.
• If we value our health, we will be careful about what and how we eat;
• If we value our friends, we will treat them with respect;
• If we value money, we will be careful while spending;
• If we value our time, we will not waste it.
• If we value relationship we will not break it.
“Care fullness is a basic trait all of us have, we know when to be careful , Carelessness only shows what we don’t value.”
Try it by keeping targets . Like Aim for 21 days first . So in that , 21 days you can be focused as its short time compared to 90 days . After you complete your 21 days the neural network related to addiction will weaken and it will become easier to deal with urges . But , Have a target and commitment . Don’t play it blind .
Yes but i can barely make it to 2 days.Whnever i try to make it to 3 days i end up making excuses and fap.Im currently on a binge cycle and it so damn hard to even make it to 5 hours without fap.
Complete the test first, then come back to have time to discuss.