What everyone else thinks, does fantasising about sex, naked body parts, dwelling on past sexual experiences equals the same act as watching porn? I just caught myself dwelling on a possible sex I could have with someone I know, and I had such an intense rush of sensations throughout my body as if I were watching porn. I caught myself enjoying this fantasy and wanting to stay there. Then I stopped and realised that I had let my imagination loose. I wonder if that is a form of binging to satisfy sexual cravings or that’s something natural?
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@semi I don’t think it’s binging if it happens once or even twice. All of us who are on this rewire/reboot journey will face fantasies. It’s how you respond that is important. It’s normal for this happen.
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In my case,
It happens when i have a sleepless night. Generaly around 4 or 5 am in the morning. It can also happen while studying or while lying alone in a room.
Recently,
Yesterday i fall to these thoughts. First, i edged then i masturbated 6 times. Now Thats a Relapse.
Take my example,
Wise man always learn from other mistakes, Quickly snap out of this thoughts when they come. Generaly they come when we are alone so find someone to sit with at that time. At night start listening some Religious song or mantra.
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The Bible says that if you even look on a woman with lustful intent then you have committed the act. Which to me means that if you have these thoughts and let them run free then you might as well have been watching porn and relapsed. Now don’t think of me as judgemental because that’s not true at all I have fallen victim to these thoughts and the biggest wake up for me was when I envisioned one of my students naked. I am an 8th grade teacher. The only way back is to realize that we have a problem and then start to rewire our brains and fix the problems within ourselves. Here is my sharing code 6d7a18. If you ever want to talk just message me
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I totally resonate with that! The older I get the more I realise the truths that are in the Bible. We may think that having thoughts or imaginations is an innocent act. But these thoughts have enormous energy. Either we learn to run our thoughts or they run us. Mediation helps in this regard to raise awareness of how thoughts influence the feelings and then leading to a particular behaviour…
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Mmmmmmm
Is thinking about getting drunk the same as going out and getting drunk ?
This is a very good question. While all addictions are similar in some ways they are also quite different in terms of how we are getting high. So perhaps thinking about getting drunk is not the same as getting drunk, whereas dwelling on pornographic pictures in the mind’s eye may indeed create the same stimuli.
After all, the brain does not distinguish the difference between the imagination and the actual reality. The same biological response can be triggered by thinking about something or actually doing it. Research confirms it. But that’s not the point. My concern is that thinking is a way of sowing the seeds for a specific action. If you keep thinking about getting drunk, you will more likely do so. And there must be some underlying issue why you would be having these thoughts. I would imagine you may want to escape the reality as in some way things are not happening the way you want.
I am suggesting that we should be careful about what kind of thoughts we are having. Being kind to ourselves if we do get caught up with all kinds of fantasies. But making conscious choices as soon as we become aware of them not to let them feed our lives provided we want to create a life that is free from compulsive addictions that diminish our sense of self and rob us of freedom, and the inner fire or power to be the best versions of ourselves!
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To answer your question, when you see a billboard advertising liquor, and you wish you had said liquor, and then all of a sudden it was there would you drink it, I know I would have, I used to get drunk on a regular basis. Praise God I overcame that!! But what I’m trying to say is that it is a heart problem, if you look at a woman to lust after her (the bibles words right there) it is the same as adultery, at least for me, because if that woman was all of the sudden alone with me and wanted to have sex I would do it. That is why I have to depend on God to give me a new heart.
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I don’t think so but I also believe it’s good to avoid as these thoughts can trigger you into looking at porn.
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6d7a18. bible does infer that the thought is equal to the deed. It’s a difficult one when society pushes the thought at your face suggesting we all go out and just ×××k. But we are doing well in resisting our OWN actions in the middle of a sexualiased world. Acknowledge the thought is there maybe. And then acknowledge your intentions regarding that thought. You will end up choosing the right path.
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