Drago's journey (25 M)

drago · June 28, 2021, 8:24am

NOW WhaT IS THIS NEW THING. @debellator @neveragaintw

drago · June 28, 2021, 10:15am

SO THIS GUY WAS TELLING ME THAT NOT MASTURBATING IS BAD FOR ME… THAT WAS MY REPLY TO HIM…AND ABOUT HIM HE IS TOPPER OF THE CLASS … BUT NO HAPPINESS AT ALL …AND THIS HAPPENED TODAY JUST FEW HOURS AGO…AND HE WAS TALKING ABOUT THAT BAD SITE ALSO…I JUST FORGOT TO TAKE SCREENSHOT BEFORE HE DELETED…

PEOPLE WHO SAW 3 IDIOTS CAN RELATE TO THIS (CHATUR DISTRIBUTING MAGZINES IN HOSTEL )…

debellator · June 28, 2021, 10:17am

It’s not new. Your post contained a watched word, so it needed moderator approval before it could be posted. This is to ensure that people don’t simply post meaningless things on the forum. But don’t worry, if the message is genuine it will be approved

drago · June 29, 2021, 1:50am

Ohk… Got it…

Good feature…

Yep… Thanks…

drago · June 29, 2021, 1:52am

day 450
Undefeated! by God’s grace…

drago · June 29, 2021, 4:56pm

if the habitat is not sufficiently favorable or nurturing , the cell will choose ~~immortality ,in other words~~ self sufficiency and self management . on the other hand if the habitat is favorable it will choose reproduction that way when they die ,they hand down essential information and knowledge to the next cell which hands it down to the next cell and so on.
- professor norman ( movie :lucy )
the meaning i think is ,if we do semen retention we tend to be self managing and self sufficient…
and also another thing is mast*bation doesnt even does reproduction so the feeling of guilt…and also can be said about casual s**…

drago · June 30, 2021, 1:37am

"Check-in" Daily - diary challenge

As for me, having major urges today, I keep battling myself, I will open up steam to go look at raunchy games, then I will battle myself over clicking on them, then close the app. I want to so bad, but I won’t! I cannot. To throw it all away now, God forbid man, this stuff is freaking ridiculous. Strongest urges for this entire streak!

I think it originated from my stress today over turning in a big project, worried about my grade, and then of course I have a big calculus exam this week. So the stress is getting to me, at least subliminally, so I’m having urges.

But it’s so weird, I can’t pinpoint it, but the urges this time are so strong. It’s not a clear argument this time, it’s more like a feeling of finality. Like it’s making me feel like this is my only option. Maybe like fighting is pointless, or rather it was never my goal. Such a strange feeling, but powerful. And yet, as I expose it, it is losing power.

So I shall continue to try to work it out so that I may counter it’s argument, bare with me because I am experiencing this as I am writing this:

(EDIT AFTER FINISHED WRITING: Sorry if this dialogue is a bit convoluted, it is my exact thoughts as I thought them, writing it down as I worked through them. I am not presenting what the urges are saying, only my responses)

It is the feeling like I should just do it. Drop what I am doing and relapse. It is the necessary action. But truly there is nothing necessary about it. What meaning does it give to me? Yes, it provides pleasure, but where will it take me after the pleasure. After the burst of dopamine. I am not subject to animal instincts, I am human. That makes me strong.

“Really” I ask it, “What can you give me other than 20 seconds of pleasure?”
“Ah, an hour of pleasure, well that’s not much better, is it. Is that all you have?”
“What I mean to say is that I have my entire life ahead of me in this moment, every time I listen to you I lose time. And you may say that it is only this time or I will never want to go back after dealing with you, but I really will want to leave. I have everytime”
" Tell me, will seeing these beautiful women will solve my problems? Or will it only prevent me from finding a women of my own. You see all of your arguments are useless. You offer nothing but false pleasure, false satisfaction, and false fulfillment.

Why would I give up everything I have in the pursuit of emptiness. 28 days! It has taken me all my being to be in this moment, to be where I am. I have wanted to be clean for so long. It will always be a dream if I give up now. My life will never move forward, I’ll be stuck in ice as I watch my friends and family move on and be happy. I will watch as you control my life and take all that I have. My relationships, my youth, my motivation, my confidence, my grades, my future.

Who will I be if I relapse? Who will I be if I turn around again? Who will I be if I sacrifice who I am for what I superficially want?

Will I really be myself? Is that really who I am? Would the real me inside do that? Would “SpecialBird” do that?

He wouldn’t. So who would I be? I can answer that. 5 years in addiction, look where I was. Depressed, weak, emotional, self-seeking, lazy, and moving to progressively weirder ■■■■ which was absolutely disgusting. That wasn’t me when I started PMO, that isn’t the true “SpecialBird”.

Now think 10 years down the line. My previous experience tells me that the trend doesn’t get any better. And by 15 years, 20, 25?? That will be a wildly different person. A new person takes over.

We all have that alternative person. We have our true selves, but we have this alternate future self that is a real possibility, someone we wouldn’t even recognize. PMO doesn’t just demand one night of obedience, it wants your entire life.

I can’t become that, but if I relapse tonight, I will become that if decide once again to move a step in that direction, to walk that way. There’s only two people I can be, me or them. And when I make conflicting steps, it tears me apart because I’m not following who I want to be. I am trying to be two separate people.

I can’t do that to myself. I deserve better."

This is my streak, I am going to make it.

written so well.
i needed this today…after this guy messaged me … feeling good now …after sharing this…

drago · July 1, 2021, 5:51am

[25F] Natalia's story

I’ve decided to share my story about masturbation for the first time ever. I want to encourage those who are floundering. If you are going through something similar then this should bring hope because I’ve just made 19 days which is my highest streak since the first day I masturbated 17 years ago and I’m free.

Let’s set the stage. I’m 8 years old.

I go to the bathroom and use the hand held faucet to wash myself. It gushed with such force onto my nether bits and I didn’t stop because it felt so good. I didn’t know what I was doing but I quickly experienced my first orgasm. I kept going back with curiosity and it fueled an addiction that couldn’t be shaken.

Fast forward to 16 year old me.

I kept doing it for years and years. All the while hating what it made me and the thoughts that I had. I couldn’t focus on basic stuff because I was perpetually sexed up. Then I started exploring with real boys because the masturbation didn’t satisfy me. I thought that was the solution. And then I lost my virginity in unspectacular fashion. I was always chasing the next high. So I didn’t stop with the sex. I got into darker and darker spaces for the next 8 years. I loathed myself and reduced to self harm and substance abuse. I thought it was the way I could cope and at the time everything was ‘cool’. I am high functioning and I had a band because music was my career and we toured and I thought I loved the life I was leading. But I hated myself. Only in retrospect do I see how miserable I was. I eventually lost my voice and quit the band and fell into the recesses of clinical depression. I had to start medicating to bolster myself.

Skip forward to last year. I’m 24.

I met Jesus in Jan 2018. I learnt that he died so that I don’t have to die everyday to my sin. He rose from the dead so that I can rise up victorious. He’s given me the power. So I’m not letting go of it. Giving my life to Christ was the best decision I’ve made and it has spread into every corner of my being

On Valentine’s Day, Feb 2018, in a splendid show of self-love I quit my anti-depressants that I’d been taking after telling Jesus that if he wanted a fulfilling life for me, this was step one. What was once so difficult for me to even consider is now my reality; freedom from crippling depression. Boom. Restoration.
That’s just the beginning. I have since started and maintained an excel sheet of prayers. I can’t even begin to cover everything that Jesus has done in my life this year but I will try to summarize a few of the experiences I’ve had. One of the first prayers I prayed regularly was for my boyfriend to know Jesus too since he comes from a Hindu home. I wanted him to know the peace that I felt because he’s had a turbulent life and even though he did know Jesus at one point in his teenage years he was quick to be discouraged and give up. In July 2018 it happened. In an uncharacteristic act of confidence he raised his hand in the church to acknowledge that he believed too. He nudged me before he did that because we had talked about it even though he didn’t know that I was praying hard. Since then he has grown in leaps and bounds. We’re still together and going strong. Boom. Restoration.
At the beginning of the year I had quit my previous job because I didn’t agree with some of the esoteric spiritual stuff that they were doing and I couldn’t design the marketing collateral for this stuff that I didn’t believe in. After I quit, I decided that I wanted to be a freelance designer who is able to make enough money to live, AND save. So I asked God to give me a steady stream of great clients and he gave me this crazy good job at a corporate firm in April 2018 that checks all the boxes and then some. I get paid really well, I enjoy my work, I learn so much and it’s work that I believe in. Boom. Restoration.
I also quit smoking in August 2018. I picked up the habit in college and that was 8 years ago without respite. Today I am cigarette free for 148 days. An additional benefit is that my boyfriend took a cue from me and quit too. Both of us have stopped drinking too since it triggers the urge to smoke. Boom. Restoration.
A prayer that I had made since 2018 new year’s night was for my relationship with family. I wasn’t the model daughter and had way too much of my own agenda for as long as I could assert myself. I didn’t respect my parents or honor their contribution to my life. Clearly I’d needed healing from many wounds and I resented them for the time they put into charity work instead of me and I felt neglected and didn’t want to even live under the same roof. I had moved out in October 2017. But in 2018 I changed so much that the family restoration happened almost by default. I did pray about anger from both parties and I saw it all melt like wax before God. Now my relationship with my parents’ has turned full circle. I voluntarily share life with them. Boom. Restoration.
Another prayer from new Year’s night was about music. That tale deserves it’s own thread but to cut a long story short, I had been riddled with fear since I stopped singing in 2015 after losing my voice. Honestly, I had given up. I had quit my music teaching job and the band that I toured with. I stopped playing the guitar or writing any music. I was also curating and managing artists but I just dropped everything. However, this year God gave me a word that I will be a musician. I didn’t believe it, mostly because I was skeptical of the source. But then God sent another reminder through a friend and this time I prayed about it. And I kept praying. Soon I saw many little affirmations for restoration of music in my life. I began to sing again. And to write music again. I’m so excited for what God has in store for me. I have a hope and that’s more than I could have said a year ago. Boom. Restoration.

Fast forward to today. I’m 25 and I’ve just completed 18 days of No Fap.

I joined the forum in November 2018 but I have wanted to quit for much longer, as you know. The highest I have ever gone before this is about a day or two since I started at age 8. I struggled to see self worth and struggled to value myself even after Jesus, but I didn’t give up. I kept on reminding myself of the truth of what Jesus did for me. And it’s been transformational.
Over the last few days I shamefully edged by going on chat rooms. But I realised that I didn’t want to get my self worth from there. Instead I found myself telling the men on these chats about my story. And it always resonates. People want to be free. That’s why all of you are here. It’s a struggle and a powerful journey of self realisation but it’s well worth it. I’m done with chat rooms and with ■■■■ and with the masturbation that kept me enslaved. This is my war cry. I’m victorious and I speak that victory in my story.

There is hope, fam. There is restoration. You don’t have to waste away. Just stay true. And I’m praying for you, especially the friends I’ve been privately talking to on the app.

I’m at my best friend’s wedding and it’s busy so whatever comments you leave, I’ll respond later. But feel free to chat. I’m open to conversation.
And I’m also nervous about saying all this. I think I could have written it better. Proof read it two more times. But I’m just posting it because the essence stays the same.

I’m free, you can be too.

awesome… this would always give me some tears ,reading this…

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nofapstar123 · July 21, 2021, 1:22pm

Thats very true bro!

Dari · July 21, 2021, 2:13pm

Your story inspired me! Thank You!

rewire_user · July 22, 2021, 2:33pm

Man, Your diary is so inspiring
And Yeah I am facing this too, And I too felt better hair quality on day 18 of my nofap. Unfortunately this is my highest streak and I have never seen the view behind this wall. This wall seem so huge to me. But I will surely climb it and Experience the beautiful view behind it

_TIGER · July 22, 2021, 2:48pm

@drago aur bhai kya chal rha he?

drago · July 22, 2021, 7:41pm

i am happy that my story helped you brother…
all the best…

Dari · July 22, 2021, 7:44pm

A bit of a sister I am, but still! You’re great example!

drago · July 22, 2021, 7:51pm

thanks for the compliment sister…

Prox · July 23, 2021, 2:36am

I had trichotillomania too ( I didn’t know what it’s called before reading on quora) around 2 years back… I just used to keep pulling them for fun thinking my hair is strong and used to check their strength by pulling before I realized my hair started falling themselves… All that helped is not being under stress
Now I don’t care about hair and don’t pull that much but still, unconsciously/not while being careful my hand reaches in hair

prothekter_aden · July 23, 2021, 7:27am

BRO BRO BRO!!!

You’re on day 474???
Seriously?
man you are an absolute legend
RESPECT ++++++++++++++++++++++