Distress Sitnal

Okay. I need help.
I want this addiction gone but I never find the root. It’s like I get trapped in my mind and when I fall… I fall hard. Like… I don’t know what’s missing? I have good grades I have a job I have friends I’m Christian and yet I still…like I’m losing. Can someone help me get my thoughts straight?

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Could be a cope with trauma, something from the past, a hidden guilt, can you recall your childhood? Maybe you could find something there

Just keep it simple… follow nofap rules… & keep on trying again & again… till you finaly able to understand what is good for your life…

Draining your energy OR raising your energy.
Take a decision.

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NoFapRules?
What do you mwan.?

A lot has happened in the my childhood that I thought I shelfed. But you can have a point.

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1)No watching erotica
2)No jerking off your cock
No orgasm from 1 & 2.

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Well learn a new skill and invest time in it i have a friend that started drawing now he is on day 65 of. No fap bcz of that skill. Find something you love and invest time in it.

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Well I used to competitive gaming and I do game design and game development. Also film. Maybe I can go back into it or learn something new.

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I encourage you to go back iam a gamer and trust me gaming is always a therapy for problems in life

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I agree with the points already made.
Keep it simple, keep to the rules and distract yourself with something therapeutic.

Make the commitment to quit pmo, and overtime your mind will become clearer, able to organise your thoughts successfully.

You are not just your mind, but also your actions and feelings.

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I experienced exactly the opposite :smile:
Was a pretty good warcraft 3 player when I was younger.

I had and still have the problem, that as soon as I play computer games, I forget everything around me. I forget all my problems and all the things I should do to solve these problems.

So, once I shut down my computer I feel horrible because I again see all the things I procrastinated another 4 hrs and became even worse

I know that sometimes gaming can be negative but for me i play skyrim when i finish i study then sleep as you see i have no time for porn bcz i filled it

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Dude,
Meditation is the key to your problem I think. It is awesome. It is like the best sleep you will ever get. In 5 minutes. And it will teach you to control your mind. And your subconscious will learn how to defend itself from lustful thoughts. So just go on. All you have to do is find somewhere calm, do the lotus position (check it out on internet) and focus on ONLY ONE THING : your breathing. Feel it come from your stomach up to your nostrils. Feel the air come back in you. Focus on that as long as possible. If other thoughts come in your mind, it is ok, just reject them without even thinking about it. Just keep your mind on the breathing. Then, you will be able to focus on your senses. This is called full consciousness. Its awesome. Take some time after your meditation to think about your life and your problems. Your mind is clearer and sharper after meditation. You will find answers you would have never thought about otherwise.
Just do this as long as you want when you feel like it. It can quickly become a habit. This will make your spirit more disciplined. It’s just like workout, exept it is for the spirit and instead of tiring you, it regenerates you (no offense to workout, I am crazy about it as well).
Try this bro it should help you,
Good luck
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Imo, It’s either you need a healthy alternative hobby (that fulfills your life) or wisdom (religion, philosophy, meditation or anything of the sorts).

If it’s due to underlying reason of PMO, like childhood trauma, I think it would be obvious to you. You just need people to remind you that it might be the cause. Not some digging of you past-self.