It is a zone to make your ears feel tingly and relaxed but it is too stimulating for people like us because it causes arousal sometimes and not to mention youtube can sometimes add other ASMR content that may be inappropriate like what happened to me in my last relapse. I feel good still without ASMR. The best decision ever. Trying to fall asleep without those things and just relaxing your mind at night with breathing techniques is something I am doing.
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i get it man, it made sense..
you say it is healthy right? is that what you mean, daydreaming is healthy but you are forced to stop it cause you are trying to lower the dopamine spikes.. right?
got it.
any strategies that you use? or is this the only part you are confused too
i see, but if the daydream slipped in without we noticing then thats where problem lie isnt it?
but i do get it sometimes just a “nope” could work. but not all the time agree?
thanks @Joyofthelord
yep, sometimes there this big gap between our daydreams and the reality, we get soaked into it, for for some longtime and when we finally snap back its like we cant fathom this is the real world.
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thats great that you stopped, but normal ASMR, you shouldnt be avoiding it all together right? ■■■■ is just contaminating these healthy stuff too nah?
I never said it was healthy and tbh i dont know if its healthy but I think its just normal that sometimes we zone out thinking abt different scenarios but when you are daydreaming abt sexual stuff it create the same dopamine spike as ■■■■ I wont as high but basically you are lowering ur discipline and it might result to ■■■■
For me mediation and deep breathing helps just shutting down thought I think abilities to control ur thought would help in the long run
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Maybe if it is a whispered reading of scripture or limited and not frequent then maybe, not at night time for sure. However, usually it is triggering to me since it creates alot of stimulation to the brain, that the brain craves after korn and it might get addicted to it. I was addicted to ASMR for sometime because it was really relaxing and would fall asleep with my headphones on still, that was annoying because I wanted to sleep normally.
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yeh but dont you think its healthy, cause daydreaming has given me very good insights sometimes.. but nowadays, it got contaminated by ■■■■, i only get so little advantages out of it. just wanna get rid of ■■■■ then daydream healthy, yeh might seem funny but it does help me creative wise
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just as the same for me with normal music.. i mean songs.
it was like if i just listen to one i might binge for hours, well with an ADD ON, yes daydreaming, and now i have cut music. only some time i listen between 18 to 21, no tasks at that time. i chill but i will be aware of the daydreaming aspect.
it did worked for me to get me sleep but nowadays i dont use it to get to sleep. just like you.
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It is way better to not rely on such vices for sleep as it can be addicting. There was a time where ASMR didn’t have alot of crazy content but nowadays, it has alot that gets you questioning whether they are trying to push some type of agenda in the youtube algorithm.
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I think It’s related to how much your unconscious is strong.
One good solution is to raise your awareness and spend less time with screens and more with life, more with real people.
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by this logic weed is healthy.
All great artists use it as a creative muse because it shows them things they would not have seen otherwise.
And I know from speaking to people just like how it is with daydreaming, weed also makes them ■■■■ addicts because the release from ■■■■ when a person is high is even more.
You need to go in depth and see if the benefits are worth the costs.
In my opinion no, day dreaming is never worth it.
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we dont wanna be all black and white.
lets just say there are types of daydreaming, like romantic ones which are the problem for me.But daydreaming in itself helps me more than good, when i am idle, like away from my productive works, I see stuff, recognise patterns across, like weird ways to prompt inject, and how certain systems might work. This really boosts the rate of my learning speed. I would most definitely say i wouldnt really be what I am without it.
the only part of the daydream i wanna ditch is sexual ones and romantic ones. daydreaming is not the enemy, just like sexual energy is not the enemy but korn is.
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Do you think daydreaming makes you learn faster? in what way?
Dear kanzo, i think he is talking about the positive thoughts which gives solutions to his problems & make him move forward.
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I think you’re confusing daydreaming (fantasy) with thinking/ pondering/ problem solving. When you’re thinking about the stuff you did in school that’s completely different from fantasizing about having s@x with your favorite TV / korn star.
It’s like saying eating to stay alive is very similar to eating when sad or stressed (as a coping mechanism). What I’ve come to realize with this problem we’re battling is to exterminate any trigger if we want to get better.
I hope this helps
I don’t think this is daydreaming bro
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exactly
so coming to the scope of this topic, do you struggle with daydreamings to be specific too, anslo hey @kanzo what about you?
actually i do be managing my daydreams about sexual stuff at bay. sometimes the inevitable happens but yeh thats about it.
and also the daydreaming part i said is yes i labeled it correctly like me getting into the system, doing weirdest ways to solve the problem, inversing, and so on and on.. it is the daydreaming that I would like to exist.
i cant tell you one @kanzo, prob thousands , when i was a little guy, i was bullied, physically abused by my father..this provided me a space to vent out. I will be the hero in my daydreaming, but it turned realistic, I had my transformations, not to hurt others just because they hurt me, it fuels the cycle, getting help, no one taught me through all these other than my own stories in head. I even changed to agnostic..because i was daydreaming too much on religion, why it doesnt help and came to a conclusion it doesn matter. its not my question to answer.
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I am so sorry to hear that, it is so sad.
Do u forgive ur father ?
I don’t buddy
I am not becoming evil with that decision am I?
cause I expect the same treatment for myself, if ever did any wrong I don’t expect forgiveness.