I agree but when the urges come they are none the less as powerful and urgent all the while knowing that porn is a totally useless habit. My brain is still craving dopamine while my neocortex (the front part think it’s called that) is rebelling against the craving probably iniated in another part of the brain. Then I suppose it’s vital we do not give into previous brainwashing that because I strongly desire to view porn; porn must therefore be good and valuable. I wonder if succumbing to the urges is succumbing to the brainwashing as well but the urges are separate to any brainwashing and conditioning we have around porn I.e I know porn is bad for me and completely pointless but I’m still craving a fix.
That’s the hardest challenge surely; overcoming the urges.
Isn’t that what freedom from porn addiction is?
Knowing I don’t need porn and successfully overcoming all urges until the urges stop coming
I agree, urges are very strong and manipulative. Another reason why pmo is not good
The urge to pmo is a side effect of pmo.
That moment after you stop and don’t pmo, the urges to pmo come back as a fake “cure”, to calm my anxiety and awkward feelings which come from so much pmo.
The goal is to fight to stay Free from PMO. Don’t lose your freedom. Feel free to fully express yourself on this forum. Whatever is on your chest, get it out. That’s part of the healing process. Also, reach out to the other warriors. We’re all here to help.
Stay Clean, Stay Focused, Stay Healthy and Stay Happy
Next time you feel the urge, do 30 push-ups and 30 sit-ups, then take a cold shower. Then Meditate on your goals. And watch some Nofap motivation videos.
Nearly finished reading Easy Peasy plus found it as audio on youtube so going to listen to it having finished reading it…
From the book:
The ‘little monster’ of dopamine urges and the bigger monster of brain washing are really helpful concepts. The deceptiveness of pmo addiction as well : ‘manipulative’ is a good word @anon67854825. The bargaining we do with our addiction ‘it’s just one peek’ or soft porn is not porn or well masturbation isn’t technically a fail is all part of the lying little monster (lol) but it is a very helpful analogy. The fear that I’m missing out. As long as we think we are missing out or sacrificing something we will never be far from a relapse so removing the brain washing is essential. If we liken porn addiction to drinking bleach then doing well at not drinking bleach this week and strategies for not drinking bleach and a counter for avoiding the weekly glass of bleach appear ridiculous.
If we can see pmo as that harmful and pointless then quitting should be much easier.
I am a non user. I have had my last pmo session. I’m done with pmo.
I had another setback yesterday. I had a hard time forgiving myself with a relapse earlier in the week. That thought process is rooted in shame and puts me back in an addiction cycle of despair.
God had spoken clearly of my forgiveness and the need to forget the past, it is forgiven. I can be faithful to the present moment.
The earlier relapse was rooted in fear of the unknown future, stress, and wanting to escape mixed with my legitimate desire to move home and be closer to family. I need to run to the Lord to help me process those emotions and not a false, pixelated embrace.
I agree, urges are very strong and manipulative. Another reason why pmo is not good 
