I have been doing or trying NoFap from 3 years. I am currently 20. And the exact years of addiction, could be 8+ years.
I have blockers and everything present in my phone. Its very hard to surpass them. But we all know, any blocker isn’t enough, there will be loopholes. I also escape through that loopholes. The actual problem starts after that. I don’t know whether this thing is called Chaser Effect or not. But I read somewhere it is- I keep on relapsing. I keep on relapsing till the moment I am with just enough energy to keep myself awake. The number of relapses crosses 15 times a day. I can’t even understand whether its normal or not.
I am more effected my Chaser Effect than Porn itself. Please give me a solution. I am stuck with it. Unable to cop up .
After that, am all drowsy like a drug addict or drunkard and keep on lying on bed.
Hey, I just wanted to let you know you’re not alone. Everyone here has urges. The chaser effect can only last for so long, and eventually it will go away. Many people mistakenly believe that once they quit PMO, they will have urges for the rest of their life. But this isn’t true. It’s different for everyone, but the only way to know how long your urges last, is to outlast them. You also said you had porn blockers. I would recommend removing them, but it depends on how much you are in control. Blockers create the forbidden fruit effect, which makes you want porn even more. It makes you feel like you’re blocking yourself from something you want. But I know you don’t want porn. So you don’t need blockers, because I’m sure you can find your way around the blockers anyway if you really wanted to. I used to have blockers, and they didn’t help. I don’t want you to let your guard down, though. Just take it one day at a time. Just make it one day without PMO. Don’t worry about tomorrow, just make it through today. If you get an urge, remember how glad you are to be a NoFapper. It is great that you don’t need to poison yourself anymore. Remember that all the urges you get come from that firsr PMO session and each subsequent relapse. If you quit giving in, you are ridding yourself of a horrible disease. The urges will go away over time. If you haven’t already, I highly recommend reading The Easy Peasy Way. You can read it here: https://www.easypeasymethod.org
Thanks bro. I will surely read that book. Actually its lying in my pdf. Need to check that out.
Obviously. But I have been using the blockers for nearly 3 years now. If suddenly I remove them, I need to learn self control. And probably, I will have to fail a lot before the final control. And I couldn’t afford more failures.
Moreover, the thought which doesn’t allows me to take this step is, if I kept on failing after so many blockers. What will happen after removal?
Bro That’s a huge number, are you talking about days or week. I think you should start slow, make some habits one by one, join a challenge for accountability and report there daily.
Everybody has at some point have their downfall, you just have keep faith and not stay there forever
Wish you luck.
In a day bro.
When I relapse. I relapse continuously. That roughly sums to more than 15 times in 24 hours.
I am trying to journalise to stay accountable.
Thanks bro. In this lone struggle. People like you make me surrounded. Thanks.
Don’t you feel bad morally? because that’s something extreme.
Don’t worry, just improve yourself everyday, Well challenge will be great too it gives you competition which is sometimes motivating.
Not just morally bro. Physically, mentally, emotionally. All. Everytime I loose, I just look to prepare a noose to hang. Then I remember my parents. I keep on crying night after night. Dying day in and out.
When I am on my streak and find a loophole, everything seems insignificant. Just one thing matters, I have to masturbate to that. Whatever the material is. And not just one time. I have to masturbate till I have exhausted myself, lying like a corpse.
I dont know what happens to me. I become a devil. A devil, who has come to rape himself.
Well I’ll be fucking damned.
I am damned bro. Wasted. Just trying to live. Breathe.
it’s very hard, you jerk off 15 times a day. I started jerking off somewhere from the age of 10-11 and jerked off once a day, then it was not enough and I jerked off 2 times every day, sometimes it was 3-4 times a day, but no more, 3 times a day - this is was a rarity. at the age of 15 I saw porn for the first time and I liked it very quickly, I spent 4-5 hours on porn sites a day and jerked off for 3 years, but since last year I decided to quit it. 5 months I relapsed and only after that I started my longest streak of 198 days. I got erectile dysfunction from porn. I have a couple of questions for you. do you jerk off to porn? and if so, do you have erectile dysfunction or not? the main thing is to resist the urge, it will be hard, but I’m sure you can handle it, good luck bro
Not exactly everyday. Whenever I lose my streak. Which I often do. My highest streak in 3 years is just 29 days.
Yes. Only to porn (that includes its substitutes like gif, pics etc)
I dont understand exactly what it is? If its like, do I get erections? Yeah. I do.
Mine is only 16 days. Don’t think you can’t do it again. I am still trying. Let’s kick ass of PMO together.
Tbh it’s not normal.
, you are not alone my brother, and don’t do that, abhi toh life me bohot kuch krna hai.
I would suggest you to not to stress too much on fapping and no fapping. Why don’t you focus on other things like studying, working out and all.
Check out these challenges.
I will die . It shows you have a lot of energy. Learn how to transmute this energy to any productive work
porn-induced erectile dysfunction is when your penis doesn’t get up because of excessive viewing of pornography. when a guy starts watching porn, dopamine is produced in him, the brain starts to get used to it and neural connections are formed and with each new viewing of porn they become stronger. the member stops getting up on regular porn because the brain does not get enough dopamine. the brain needs more dopamine and a person begins to watch a wide variety of porn. this is how porn-induced erectile dysfunction (PIED) is formed. I didn’t even know I had erectile dysfunction while watching and jerking off to porn. later I began to notice that my penis stopped getting up for porn or the erection was very weak and sluggish, so that he got up I had to stimulate him with my hands, otherwise he would not get up. then I noticed that I did not have a morning riser and began to slowly drop the PMO. I still don’t have a morning boner and I don’t know if I got rid of erectile dysfunction or not. I read a lot of stories that guys also had erectile dysfunction and abstained from PMO and didn’t know whether they got rid of it or not, and when it came to sex with girls, they got up and everything was fine, and some, on the contrary, didn’t get up. so I think whether I got rid of erectile dysfunction or not, because I now have a streak of 198 days, but I don’t have a girlfriend to check it out. and so I’m wondering if you have an erection or not, because you wrote that you are 20 years old and your addiction has been for more than 8 years.
@_TIGER trust me bro. I also think the same. And not just energy, I think that the innovative ways which I find to create loopholes in my blockers, if I use the same in creating anything productive, I would have been a scientist till now.
I will try to transmute my energy. But can you suggest some ways?
Its very peculiar to me then. Even after doing so much masturbation, I get on erections very easily after doing streaks of 4-5 days. Though they arent that much hard on, flaccid. But I do get erections.
Its all peculiar for me. @Zelus
@Sholt_Peterson thanks bro. Bro why not start a study challenge. I could perform there well. I find the old study challenges have turned unuseful and people dont take that seriously. Can we start a new fresh challenge or study group of only serious people? It will help me a lot and others dealing with PMO.
@Samaranjay , what do you think bhai? Ek ant se ek naye aarambh tak .
Hello brother. My highest was 7 times in a day. My observation was When we r hyper active and heavily distracted with no goals to chase, we cling to this stuff. Insufficient sleep could be a big reason. Check ur schedule once. And make good use of this forum. Always engage in some good upbuilding activities. All the best buddy. Every phase fades. Keep fighting.
Yeah @ysub. Therefore have asked the other members to bring up a study challenge group of only serious people. If they make up. I will be able to channelise myself. This can make me productive as well as accountable.