Everyone out there in the community I just need some senese of direction and help coz idk what is wrong and I need advice coz I am really really scared that smt is wrong with me .
So the whole situation goes like, I and my gf finally decide to have sex but it turned out that the moment we went for it I couldn’t get hard and it happend not just with her but even later when I was alone tried to mastrubate, I got hard but then I couldn’t maintain and erection and first I thoight that maybe it’s the anxiety and pressure but it’s that was not the case, some how I came to this community where I realsied that maybe porn adiction is a leading cause to cause such a situation and idk I am scared that maybe it’s not the case or smt is wrong with me. It’s been 15 days since I started using this app and I would lovee and it did be great help if anyone can share their experiences similar to mine and if it turned out to be great at the end ??! I despirately wanna fix myself I am going nuts here.
Your brain is badly damaged by Porn and masturbation. The damage is to that extent that your brain is not interested in Real sex that is why you are not getting hard , but its interested in the fantasy and fake world of Porn
and does not want anything except Porn and masturbation.
So to get yourself back , You need to reboot your brain. That is you have to practice nofap for minimum of 90days to reboot your brain and to get rid of Porn.
Thanks for tagging @Ash_Matt
All these things will be cured bro @Oppenheimer969 . These are all side effects of pmo addiction. Some people get premature ejaculation (PE), others get Porn Induced Irectile Dysfunction (PIED), and many other sexual problems.
A reboot of min 90 or a standard 180 days can cure everything. I’ve been through it too. I couldn’t get erection on p*** as well. My dick was basically dead. But currently Iam on day 78- getting constant morning woods, erections are coming back. They are not perfect though. It’ll all become alright. Be celibate for 180 days. Also spent time with your gf, talk, don’t think about sex, replace it with love. PIED will be cured easily.
Nothing is wrong bro. It is 100% porn induced. The problem is in the brain. You have been pmo-ing to for too long with a death grip that your brain now has forgotten the genetic neural pathway of sex. It is interested only in pmo. Brain is extremely plastic; just after 30-60 days your erection will start coming back.
Also during the reboot your dick will go dead for the first 30-50 days usually. Maybe flatline also can occur; in my experience flatline is stronger for people who have PIED since big changes are happening in the brain.
If you want, go to yourbrianonporn.com site and learn a little about flatline too. It’ll help.
Spending time with friends, being disciplined, watching movies, hearing songs, exercise, Meditation etc can all help in getting out of flatline fastly
It’s important it will help you and even don’t let you easily fall for porn. Talk about your hobbies , your moments , do some funny . But don’t talk about anything regarding sex.
Everything will be okay believe in yourself and make efforts towards your streak.
Remember that if you have ED then nofap will cure it (if there are no underlying medical issues).
You will have the freedom of not worrying about your browser history.
You will have the freedom of not having that second, hidden, fappy personality.
You will have a more sensitive and normal genital response (i.e. no more death grip/death schlick syndrome).
Improve Your Commitment
Acknowledge to yourself that you have a problem, an addiction even.
Make a public commitment to stop fapping (for most of us this is an anonymous but public commitment like here on nofap, for some it could be a trusted buddy or your SO).
if you have an accountability partner, call or text them when you are surging.
Mark out your nofap days on a calendar (‘x’ out each day with a coloured marker, if you relapse then ‘x’ out each subsequent day of your new streak using a different coloured marker). It doesn’t have to be paper, I use my iPad calendar for example.
… but remember that every day is Day 1 no matter how high your counter is.
Also post your progress on nofap every so often. Post daily if you are going through a rough patch.
“Low fap” does not work, cold turkey is the best way to go.
Whenever I feel sexual urges, I usually find a way to distract myself. One way is by playing a competitive videogame. My recommended choice (if you have a Switch) would be Tetris 99. Tetris is already a game of focus and strategy, but now you have to play against 100 people, which requires you to be as alert and focused as your components. Playing a game like this takes up all of your brain power, and soon enough, you’ll forget why you were even aroused in the first place. Another thing that I’d recommend is watching a type of video that discomforts you. My recommendation would be tarantula feeding videos because they are so creepy and arachnophia inducing that it is almost guaranteed to scare the urge away.
If you find that the urge still finds a way to get passed you, then you should join the message board community and write about why you are NOT going to relapse today, or write about how you feel everyday. This is necessary because it will make you feel like you have someone to prove to and you will have less reason to relapse because are watching you. They won’t bite.
Stay away from the place that you relapse in. If you have a play room or study, then spend your leisure time in there. Watch TV shows that don’t remind you of your sexual interests. Most importantly, recognize when you brain is working against because it will do anything to rob you of your progress. Don’t make excuses for yourself, don’t think about relapsing and be smart than your urges.