Best explained #DESENSITIZATION TO REAL LIFE* from the book *PORN PANDEMIC*

Desensitization To Real Life

“With any addiction, it becomes the central feature of the person’s life.
Everything else hangs on it.” – Walt Miller

*Porn addiction steals joy from other areas of your life since it impacts the value
you get from rewards. And it becomes increasingly difficult to enjoy things that
you once enjoyed.
*To better understand this idea, think about this: Your brain transfers dopamine
along paths of linked nerve cells. Normally this dopamine moves from one to the
next without any problems, leading to a positive experience.
It’s released by the sending cell and picked up by the receiving cell’s dopamine
receptors. But when on porn, your brain is overstimulated and the sending cell
releases too much dopamine at once. This means the receiving cell is unable to
handle it. Overwhelmed, the receiving cell drops some of its receptors in self-
defense, which reduces its ability to receive dopamine in the future.
You can think of it like a quarterback throwing a football to a receiver. In a
healthy state he’ll catch it every time, but when on porn it’s like a quarterback
throwing 10 footballs simultaneously to the receiver. The receiver becomes so
overwhelmed that he doesn’t catch any of the footballs.
*So in the future, when experiencing everyday simple pleasures like a hot meal,
walking by an attractive woman, playing the guitar, reading a good book, talking
socially, your brain isn’t able to receive the dopamine stimulus that it once did,
leading to a numbed experience feeling of life.

*All in all, excessive porn use leads to less dopamine being able to travel through
your brain, leading to desensitization. When this happens, dopamine has a harder
time moving in your brain, regardless of the reason it was sent out. This
desensitizes you not only to porn but everything in your life that would normally
give you pleasure through a dopamine response. Excessive porn reduces
dopamine flow, which reduces motivations and makes you feel less excited and
satisfied when you do things you used to enjoy.
And with reduced pleasure and motivation from daily tasks, you feel apathetic,lethargic and overwhelmed. Life seems to have lost its luster, and when it
reaches a certain stage this apathy becomes full-blown depression where you are
reliant on more and more pornography to feel good even if it is for a short time.
Once you’re in a state of depression, you begin to isolate yourself, live in a
constant state of sadness, in despair and feel overwhelmed, which creates an
unhealthy environment. In this environment, it is extremely difficult to thrive in
your personal and professional life.
Watching porn gives you a massive dopamine stimulation that you typically
won’t get from anything else in your day-to-day life. Work is so-so, going to the
gym gives you a temporary boost but it’s a lot of work, watching television is
boring, so porn has become the only outlet that seems to give you pleasure. Not
to mention it becomes the most exciting part of your day and for many a daily
ritual.
*Nothing you do during your day will come nearly as close to the dopamine rush
that you get from porn, so things you once found stimulating are now

increasingly boring…
Learning to play guitar is stressful…
Learning that second language is mundane…
Going to the gym is tedious…
Learning to salsa dance seems tiresome…
Improving your professional network is trite…
Going to that local comedy club seems uninteresting…

*Things that used to bring joy to your life simply have less importance to you as
you consume more and more porn. And the problem here is the more porn you
consume, the more desensitized to life you become.
Throughout your day you’re constantly looking forward to getting home and
watching porn. You might leave work excited that you get to go home and watch
porn, you might be leaving a social venue with friends excited to go home and
watch porn, you might be on a date excited to go home and watch porn. You
might even be having sex thinking about porn to get you off. What’s happening
here is you are looking forward to porn rather than looking forward to life.
Porn has caused such an imbalance in your life that once everyday pleasures are
now seen as mundane, boring, and pointless. Porn has become the shiny object
of desire that you look forward to rather than your own personal goals or
ambitions. You still even may be pursuing goals in your life, but they feel forced
and unnatural.
*Porn just feels right, so it’s this constant urge to consume more porn. You do it,
but then soon after you’re bored, so you do it again and again. This spiral of
negative actions leads you to feel more guilt and shame about how you’ve spent
the last few hours watching porn.
That lust for life is gone.
Imagine how you look to women after you’ve just watched two hours of porn
and now you’re trying to go talk to that beautiful woman in her pretty dress. No
wonder she didn’t give you the time of day…
*A porn addict is not living in the real world; he’s living for that next scene.
*The good news is that stopping or significantly reducing porn and masturbation
use and living a healthy well-balanced lifestyle can restore your brain back to its
normal function. When you stop the porn, the receptors grow back, and your
brain can resensitize itself to dopamine again with time. It can take months, but
it can still happen and you can live happily again.
Porn cannot only desensitize you to life but it also causes problems sexually with
women. Here’s how…porn, then porn could be the main source of this problem.

*Don’t mask the problem by investing in erection supplements and drugs. Solve
the problem at its roots by significantly reducing or stopping porn and
masturbation use.

*Your body can heal itself from the damage that porn has done over several
months

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