Battling against porn games, anyone like-minded on here?

First of all, as a newbie to this app it is a pleasure reading through the forum, I can clearly see how this can be of much help!

The reason I joined this app won’t be a surprise anyone (quit the PMO). What has made me fail some other attempts however is the fact that I don’t really feel drawn to porn I’m general. I am however completely addicted to porn games. It’s hard to explain the addictiveness of it, and I certainly do not wish to do this to anyone that hasn’t been snared by this specific pit of mental garbage. I was therefore wondering if there are some people on here that recognize themselves in this story and are battling the same demons? I’d love to have some people that are in the same boat to tag along with.

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Welcome to the community Rubs, I hope you find what you’re looking for here.

I understand your point of view. There are times in the past where I would play porn games for 14-16 hours a day. For me, there was also an added ‘thrill’ of having to play the game and move the story forward to access more scenes and content. It’s a strange form of torture. It would be easier to load up a clip like everyone else and masturbate to that, but the fact that I had to put in work to see what I wanted to see made me feel like I had earned it, like it was a reward. That made it more enticing. Also, with porn games, they push the boundaries more than in other types of porn, so I found myself escalating to all sorts of weird scenarios and categories as a result that I wouldn’t have clicked on otherwise. Shemale, tentacles, incest, teacher/student, fantasy, furries, you name it.

It’s absolutely horrible. The amount of time wasted engaging in pornography, ruining my spiritual relationship with God, my relationships with loved ones, isolating myself from my friends and accountability partners, destroying my health and binging on junk food in-between PMO sessions, damaging my confidence and self-esteem, watching my finances deteriorate, it was a complete mess. All while I was a member of this community, telling myself that I was trying to quit doing PMO.

That said, don’t fall into the trap of thinking that ‘my struggle is different to what other people struggle with’ or ‘I can’t relate to them/they can’t relate to me because they didn’t look at the same kind of porn I did.’ I used to have that problem until my friend highlighted that all porn is filth and poison, regardless of what particular brand of it pulls your interest. An alcoholic whose poison is whiskey can’t say that a vodka drinker wouldn’t get what he’s going through.

I have a friend here on Rewire who masturbates exclusively to images of celebrities. Not nude images - just the kind you would see in newspapers and magazines like red carpet events at movie premieres and fashion galas. If he watches the Oscars, that’s extremely triggering for him. The question isn’t whether it counts as porn or not for other people. If you masturbate to it and it is ruining your life, it is porn for YOU, it is unsafe, and it is time to escape it for good. The methods for quitting PMO work regardless of what our particular brand of filth is.

My best advice to you is to read the EasyPeasy book on how to quit PMO addiction. You can find a copy at thebooktoquitporn.com or easypeasymethod.org. Having read 12 books on PMO addiction, I can safely say it is top-quality advice you won’t see anywhere else. It transforms our thinking about the nature of PMO addiction and puts us in the right mindset for success.

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Thanks for your extensive reply, how you describe porn games is extremely recognisable and exactly what I’ve been struggling with. What these games capitalize on imo is that the “wanting” is so much more powerfull than the “getting” itself, truely one of the hallmarks of addiction to anything really… I’m all too familiar with the weekend long craving-sessions, neglecting social contact or self care all for the rush of playing these games

I’ll check the book out, so far I’ve only encountered solid advice from anyone on here!

If you or anyone else would like to tag along: here is my sharing code: 05191t

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You’ve said it brother, exactly that. The experience would be much more flat and dull if we got it straight away, but doing the work builds more anticipation and we desire it even more.

I promise you, there is definitely a way out. Glad to hear you’ve been getting good advice so far.

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