Wow, @anon13059885! This is so awesome! I can see that you are truly committed to the process of becoming more and more free from PMO. At the same time, you are sharing your experience and are so thoughtful about it that what you share is really helping other people, like me. I appreciate you!
Peace,
MJ
Thank you! Let’s be free of this together!
Day 37
Back when I started, I would not look at porn for a couple of days but then at some point I would start making “searches”… maybe some keyword, a name or anything else that would replace porn to some degree. I was engaging in edging behavior and that was the start of my streak’s downfall.
Here’s what’s true: if you have enough accountability, this won’t happen. You won’t engage in edging behavior because you either can’t or your accountability partner will find out really soon. I thus highly recommend using Accountable2You or CovenantEyes. Alright, it costs a bit but hey, your recovery should be worth something!
Day 40
You wouldn’t proudly tell your friends or family that you watch porn and masturbate, would you? That’s because on the outside you want to portray the strong minded man who has got his stuff together but on the inside you are addicted to porn.
Here’s what’s true: being the same on the outside and inside is a characteristic feature any person can achieve with accountability. Accountability in our terms means: your partner knows how you are feeling, what you do on your computer, smartphone, tablet, how you are building your healthy habits, if you do get close to any edging behavior or engage in any unsafe activity, if you are facing any threats in recovery.
Day 43
Free at last, mark my words.
Day 49
Steve Chandler says: “There are two kinds of people, owners and victims”.
A bunch of dudes doing nofap choose to be a victim of the situation:
Here’s what’s true: if any of the above sounds like you, well then there are good news for you still. You can choose to stop being a victim of your very own actions and become an owner. You want to be someone who owns their spirit and takes ownership for their response to every situation.
“What does this mean?”, you ask? Well it’s not that fucking hard. Start getting things from life, not just expecting things to get thrown at you. Choose to do something with your life, you go at things with an intention. You make decisions to do better at nofap, it’s intentional. You build habits, you build connections intentionally and you are busy and it’s fun! You don’t need to be happy by relying on external things, you realize that happiness comes from the inside and only YOU are responsible for your very own happiness.
So take action, choose to be the best version of yourself and stop being a pussy because at the end of the day only your own actions can lift yourself out of this shitty addiction.
I recommend listening to this free 30 minute podcast: http://www.stevechandler.musicbizwebsitepro.com/f/The_Owner_Victim_Choice1.mp3
Expecting something to be happened to you or take action and make it happen. There is always a choice that makes us the victim or victorious 
Day 56
Looking at the numbers, this streak is nothing extraordinary, I’ve been past 90 days a couple of times. But in none of those streaks did I have this amount of accountability, this kind of effort put into good habits, this feeling of motivation and connection, these tools in place or this kind of clean streak. It’s been a long time since I’ve felt like I’m doing this right for once.
Day 60
In a couple seconds finishing 60 days.
Day 63
Winners anticipate, losers react.
What does a winner do? In times of sobriety, that’s when a winner sees what’s coming ahead of him. That’s when he anticipates threats. That’s when he thinks about the things he will do and have in place to keep his sobriety tomorrow. When tomorrow comes, he executes his plan and puts it into action. The threats that come during the day, are not really a surprise, because the winner anticipated this. The winner knows what to do, takes action and makes it another great day to add to his list. Then he thinks about tomorrow, adapts his plan. Tomorrow comes and he’s ready. Day by day.
What does a loser do? A loser relapses, thinks of all the “great” things he will do and how this is “truly” the last time he relapses. He doesn’t change anything though. He doesn’t make a plan. He doesn’t anticipate anything. He has little or no accountability. When he walks into the next day, just like any other day, he doesn’t execute any plan. A loser is then confronted with a threat that somehow wasn’t “predictable” for him, although he has just faced the same threat not so long ago, and then he “reacts”. The urge is stronger of course, so he makes crappy decisions. He relapses again. Then again. And again. But that’s life right? He promises to do better tomorrow… does he change anything? Of course not.
So, are you a loser or a winner? It’s your choice every day.
Day 71
I want to make it the last time I’ve passed 70 days.
Day 74
Every streak I’ve made beyond 30 days and every time I was able to get back up and make progress wasn’t only based on willpower. In fact, I try to avoid putting my willpower to the test as much as possible and instead try to take action prior to the urges making their appearance.
I’m thankful for others opening up sharing their experience in recovery, specially Matt from the recoveredman podcast. The tools and experience he shared helped me break that 30 days barrier and really step up my recovery.
If you are struggling to get past 3, 7, 21 or 30 days then I highly recommend you checkout Matt’s podcast. I know the episodes might seem long at first but do you want to do whatever it takes to succeed or do you plan going on with your relapses? It’s time to take action.
These are the episodes I recommend for starters:
To make it to 7 days and more…
The first 30 days…
Creating a plan…
Don’t let this addiction rule your life. As Matt would say:
“Take hope and take action, be good”.
This advice will benefit many people here on the forum! Thank you for sharing brother
Precious help! Thank you very much!
Day 77
Today I will make both my streaks in this app increase at the same time. My best streak in all this time I’ve been in recovery. Wouldn’t have been possible with the right accountability and tools.
Hi @anon13059885 congratulations on reaching and breaking your highest records. Keep going brother.
Did you felt any difference between both the streaks? Are you fully recovered ? Do you feel more powerful than before?
Thanks @tuku
I’ve had higher streaks when it comes to the days, e.g. I’ve made it to 90 and 150 days more than once. It’s just that in past streaks I’d reach a point where I’d start slowly engage in unsafe behavior, paving my path to a relapse, until eventually I actually did relapse to a full extent. By unsafe behavior I mean stuff like doing “google research” or watching videos on youtube that were slightly sexual.
In this streak though, I’ve had very tight accountability and commitments in place, which makes this streak feel far more beneficial than a streak of 150 days I’ve had in the past.
I plan on continuing the path of self improvement and sobriety with the tools I have in place now and just keep that going, regardless of being fully recovered or not. I think if I were to let go, take things “easier”, relax too much, then it wouldn’t take long and I’d find myself in my old habits again. If being recovered is seen as a part of character, then it has to be seen as a result of habits in place, it’s never a final state in my opinion. There are guys with several years of sobriety, they continue to support others and still have their tools and self improvement goals in place.
The best for your journey man.
Day 80
For me, recovery is built upon two pillars. One being a nofap plan and the other being a self improvement plan. Both documents are short and their content answer different questions.
NoFap plan:
Self improvement plan:
I hope some of you find something useful within these questions that can help you on your journey too.
Congrats on this streak man!
I’m on day 86 no PMO right now so we are moving along together here. Your journals are very helpful for me and I enjoy reading them. Always learning something new.
Keep up the great work bro!
Thanks man, glad to read you find something useful for your journey here. All the best on your recovery.