I have been doing sort of my moderate constraint for 1-1.5 months. I let it be like 7-8 days relapse cycles and of course zero porn.
Good thing is that I can sleep less, I have more psychological energy and I started to get more interest from girls. Also, at this point I realized I stopped thinking about porn every day and I feel that my porn addiction is fading away. I am satisfied with all that and the with the exact way I do it.
But there is one thing (or actually two) that makes me anxious.
I’ve noticed my libido has now decreased. And it has become harder to maintain an erection. I stopped having a boner in the morning for a while. I don’t like it.
Yes, I realize my brain was used to vulgar porn to become horny and now there are no such triggers. But anyway, I am not sure whether it should be like that. I don’t know whether it’s a sign that I should increase my relapse period to 10-14 days now. What is more, I have a shift in my self-perception. Now I completely ignore the first two days after relapse. I don’t feel any urge at all and forget about it. Day 3-5 now feel like days 1-2 before. Days 5-8 now feel like days 3-4 before. Maybe it’s okay… BUT:
I’ve met a girl, she sends me nudes and feels attracted. (Of course, not only, but also due to my nofap). So, we are about to have sex in a while. And according to my self-perception shift I am not sure I am cool to have multiple ejaculations in a row. What if I just don’t have enough drive after the first one?
- Is it fine?
- What can you recommend?
Please don’t hesitate to give your opinion. Anything is very welcome. Looking forward to getting your thoughts.