Sharing code - 9464157
Current streak - 1 day
Highest streak - 30 days
Age - 23
Gender - F
Location - US
Why I want a companion - I have been struggling with pornography for about 5 years. When I got married I thought it would get better but instead it is affecting my sex life with my husband. He also gets hooked onto pornography too and we have been in this rut of thinking pornography is normal and even healthy. We are both Christians and I don’t want us to live our marriage like this. I want us to grow closer to God and focus on the purer things in life. Any companions to talk to for encouragement and even advice when your partner thinks pornography is okay. I wany to find someone to walk on this journey with me!
Thank you! Honestly, I don’t think he eants to quit. He says he thinks it is fine once in a while but not all the time, but I have had talks with him about stopping but we both just go in a cycle of having a serious talk then watching stuff again or looking at pictures.
My mom has talked about that too. I know who we could go see, any advice on how to talk him into going? I tried once and he didn’t want to because “marriage counseling means we are in trouble and we are not” I love him but he is veru stubborn and he gets defensive quick.
Do you get involved in Church activities?
Sing with choir/music group? Meet with Christian friends/couples?
I suggest not even having debates, and lead by example. Always seek first the kingdom of God.
I’m Catholic and go to Confession everyweek for p/mo. Today is actually the first time (since taking the faith seriously) that I don’t need to go! Confession is a great tool, because after a while you get embarrassed and fed up, knowing the priest will always say “it’s your faith that has saved you”
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I’m 35 m UK, and could probably relate to him.
Well. Again, im no therapist, but you could tell him that this is an issue that you are very concerned with, and it is important to you and would like to talk with a professional. If he doesnt respect the issues that are concerning to you, then point out that your marriage indeed does have a problem.
You could always go alone and ask the therapist how to talk to your husband. I totally get where he’s coming from, in this case he is wrong. But if he keeps controlling this situation despite your attempts to address it, then you have bigger marriage problems in my unprofessional opinion.
Confession is a great tool, because after a while you get embarrassed and fed up, knowing the priest will always say “it’s your faith that has saved you”