What we have is an ordinary addiction. We are not different than the other addicts nor is our problem!
What is the difference between a crystal user, a thin girl, a smoker, a smart phone user and us?
It is only our past and the drug we are using.
Since we are not different than other addicts we also don’t have to invent a new form of rehab or treatment! We can take the methods which are well established!
And the solution is talking about our problem! I feel like most people here try to circumvent this by wanna get sober with challenges only and believing they are something special and can get away without thinking about their past. But that doesn’t work!
So, I dare you. Spend some time thinking about your past and you will find the reason for your addiction.
To break the ice, I will start:
I’m addicted because of heavy bulling when I was 8. For two years all the boys in my class waited for me outside the school each day after school. They knew what they have to tell me to make me angry, the knew what they have to do to me to make me feel like crap. They bullied every single person out of my life so that I was alone for 2 years. There was no one spending time with me during the small breaks during the day. So, I just stood there and waited for the school to continue.
Why do I need porn? I fear to have this feeling again to be lonely. Instead I’m looking for “people” to spend time with me even if they are just virtual. Figuring that out reduced the numbers of days where I even have urges to watch porn to a minimum!