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I have bounced back and made almost a 3-day streak but now I have relapsed again. This cycle is just eating me

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I would like you to take a look at this. :point_up:

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I read it, I know what you meant like when these urges to PMO or whatever comes you should change the topic in your mind because, in the end, it’s all in mind when you succeed in this doing this then maybe for that instance of time have won against the urges

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Yes, the ‘snap out of it’ technique simplifies the process.
If you think about quitting PMO altogether, it seems like an insurmountable task and you might be overwhelmed. With ‘snap out of it’, you’re dealing with one urge at a time.

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It is effective but It just works for 1-2 minutes because you know the thoughts that were bothering you are still in the background.

I know it’s hard buddy. Everything in life that’s worth pursuing is hard.

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2023-02-18T16:44:00Z

Strange day. I don’t feel like making a journal entry because my day wasn’t that great. I can be a lot more productive than this.

Studied in the morning. I decided to lie down for a bit after lunch and fell asleep :sweat:. Didn’t workout today but that was intentional (I regret it now) because I was planning to workout on alternate days. Gonna scrap that plan and continue my daily workouts.

Spent a lot of time on the forum today. Shared a strategy that I’ve used to avoid PMO in the last couple of days. I call it the ‘snap out of it’ technique. It has played a pivotal role in getting me through the toughest days of my streak and I know it’ll continue to serve me in my fight against PMO.

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It happens bro, don’t let it put you down. You are already doing great, somedays will be spent being less productive and it’s ok as long as it don’t become a routine. Even I didn’t do basic homeworkout today cause of different reasons, but I’ll surely do it tomorrow. Keep going ahead and ya snap out of it is the technique I have used in the beginning of Feb, it really helps when you see it from a third person view and tell yourself to get out of the situation you are in. So relax bro you did the best you could do today. :smile:

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Much needed encouragement. Thanks bro! :blue_heart:

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2023-02-19T16:23:00Z

Another suboptimal day. Studied a bit. Worked out.
There’s a lot of room for improvement.

I have identified 2 points of failure that are impeding me from having a fantastic day.

  • Waking up late. :alarm_clock: Which of course is a consequence of going to bed late. Getting up late in the morning puts me out of sync with everything going on around me.
  • Not planning my day beforehand. :clipboard: A lot of time is wasted doing absolutely nothing and I’m unaware of it until the day ends. Having a roadmap would definitely help with that problem. So I’m gonna make a routine to stick to.
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Relateable to me, I usually have developed this habit of sleeping late which makes it hard to wake up early. I am planning from tonight to sleep before 12, so I can wake up before 8 not after that.

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Early to bed, early to rise

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2023-02-20T14:53:00Z

Today was especially tough. Urges were a lot stronger. I was taking longer to snap out of those fantasies. Plus I started watching ‘Banshee’ on Hotstar which was full of insane triggers. God knows how I handled that.

I don’t even wanna talk about how much I studied today.

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I hope you bath cold water always

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I actually bathe in hot water most days. You’re right! I should make it a habit. Cold showers from tomorrow onwards.

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Exactly, we owe ourselves good health and strong masculine frame

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2023-02-21T15:30:00Z

Spent the whole fucking day fighting urges. I’m having compulsive thoughts and sexual imagery flashing in my head as I write this down.

And what the fuck is wrong with social media!? Since I couldn’t focus on studying because my mind was wandering off every other second, I thought maybe YouTube will help keep me distracted from my urges. What the hell was I thinking!? Every other short is a thirst trap of half naked girls dancing and doing weird stuff. And what’s with all these guys trying to dress up as girls!? All this was in my feed despite the fact that I make an active effort to keep my algorithm clean. It’s like there’s an agenda to feminize and weaken men.

But in the midst of all this mess I did realize one thing. This is the time to show my mettle. Anyone can add days to their streak when there are no urges. But what a man does in the face of adversity is the real measure of his resolve and strength of character.

P.S. as promised to @mayorRP, I took a cold shower today. It really helped with the brain fog and gave my confidence a boost.

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Bro, social media is fucking messed up.

Case 1:
Do you know I have an Instagram account created newly just because my friend told me to check his photo? I was a heavy user of Instagram 1 year ago. Now my usage is 0 minutes on Instagram. But once I went to check my friend’s photo and when I liked it and was about to close, reels came and I watched 2 reels and I stopped. I reminded myself, “Fuck this platform, it’s not for you”. Social media makes you its slave and serves you as its waste.

Case 2:
I play NFS No Limits whenever I am free and also to beat my urges. So there is a small problem. When you reach rep to level 18, you can’t skip the advertisement. If you need to skip, you need a VIP pass (Premium). And the ads they show are fucking messed up. There are some games like games of khans, choices, draw to find out etc shit which shows in the ad, undressing women, slashing women’s bras and panties, kissing etc.

The problem is that these ads are not banned and also I wonder how many poor children watch these ads and start playing them. You can’t even skip these ads and they pop up at random times.

Case 3:
Spotify and youtube have thumbnails and song thumbnails and content which have soft porn. Even thumbnails are messed up

So you can understand how fucking messed up social media is.

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Well, that is good.
Where are you from?. India?

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You get the point, this western world is really killing masculinity