Brother? What happened?
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I hope u are fine , u are not writing your progress nowadays .what happened?
I hope u didnāt relapsešØ
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I think he did itā¦
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Yes I am wondering where he wentā¦
Might be too busy in his daily workā¦
I knew he wonāt relpaseā¦
He will come soon
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It took me a long time to work out why it had been so easy and why I hadnāt suffered those terrifying withdrawal pangs. The reason is that they donāt exist, itās the doubt and uncertainty that creates pangs. The beautiful truth is that itās easy to stop ā ā ā ā . Itās only indecision and moping that makes it difficult. Even while addicted, users can go for relatively long periods at certain times without it. Itās only when you want it, but canāt have it, that you suffer.
Therefore, the key to making it easy is to make stopping certain and final. Not hoping, but knowing youāve kicked it, having made the decision. Never doubt or question it, in fact, just the reverse ā always rejoicing! If you can be certain from the start, itāll be easy. But how can you be certain from the start? Thatās why the rest of the book is necessary.
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Thanks for your support brothers. Iām really glad to see the videos helped some of you. Unfortunately I didnāt have it in me to continue recording more.
No, brother @AbishekChopin2 was wrong sadly. I donāt believe anyone is that busy. The activity diary was a part of my routine, even when I was out with friends, I would make a quick update. No, I relapsed and hid away in shame and frustration.
@anon13059885 Thanks brother. I will read this again and absorb its lesson. This journey really doesnāt have to be a battle. There has been so much fear attached over the years, and itās easy to fall back into that fearful pattern again and again. The belief that we will fail as we have in the past is enough to generate the urges that lead us to create the future weāve envisioned. But the same mind that is full of fear can also be filled with love and joy and embrace the freedom we experience every day, to truly believe that we are done and that pornography and masturbation no longer hold any power over us.
@auroraborealisss Yes bro, Iāve read the EasyPeasy book and I urge you to do the same.
When you absorb the teachings without fear, you will truly notice a transformation in your life. For myself, what has held me back is a huge wall of fear I created for myself.
This whole identity that I have tried to quit for many years and nothing has worked permanently, itās a victim mindset that allows me to shed responsibility for taking charge of my life, and gives me permission to relapse again and experience that false pleasure. Itās time for a new identity that serves me instead of imprisoning me.
Truly, there is no reason to relapse after reading that book besides the reasons we give ourselves. It has the tools we need to succeed.
@Busyman Welcome back Deva, long time no see brother! Keep going on your journey to freedom - youāre already there!
Welcome back @Special_Bird! Your diary entry really touched me, those thoughts are very familiar to how Iāve felt about myself so many times. Those thoughts are absolute lies bro. Youāre a highly intelligent, creative, compassionate and lovable human being. Donāt allow that negativity to fester, embrace your good qualities and allow everything else to fall away.
Thank GOD for the journey!
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Come on buddy , NEW DAY NEW OPPORTUNITIES, We canāt keep crying over the past , but we can change our future by working . Ur a that same guy who had 150 + days streak ā¦ We all can
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Dont sweat it man. All part of the journey like you said. Keep going.
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The book is absolutely a game changer. Come back to it, delve deep once again and focus once more on creating an amazing life!
The process of building the life you want is always in progress 
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Good to see you back man! I always could use your motivation and words, playa!
Maybe you just need to facetime or vent to someone to help, is all, man. Like literally a facetime phone call once a week! Moght be the missing link.
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Thank you bro! I appreciate the warm welcome back. Youāre right, those thoughts are absolute lies, and Iām glad Iāve finally realized that. In the past, I let them fester and grow. I even thought they were good for motivation, a reminder to do well and prove myself.
But I realized that only made me sick, constantly looking for external validation, focusing on my self, and being angry when my friends were successful. It rots away at the soul.
Itās funny, because most people assume that caring less about yourself would lead you to naturally be less selfish. But Iāve found it actually only creates the deepest kind of selfishness, a sort of obsession with public image. Learning to love oneself is the key to selfless action.
Thatās been the cause of my depression and my anxiety I see now. I hated myself, and I never fixed it. My high streak of 175 days was only external validation, but when I failed, I lost everything. I plunged back into a darkness I couldnāt escape from, because in reality, I had never truly let it go.
Anyway, thank you for the kind words brother, I felt bad that I hadnāt been very consistent for a long while after that big relapse. But Iāve been very happy to see everyoneās support, itās been really encouraging for me.
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Runner or not? Continue brother! Your mind is far away stronger than you think.
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Its never about the amount of days in our life that matters mostā¦ its the amount of life we had in those days. The largest daycount for all of us will beā¦ the amount of days after we die.
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I failed as well. Itās all good. Just getting back on it.
Weāre all human who canāt measure to Olympian standards.
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Hai brother Jouswa
How are you ?
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Spelling mistakeā¦ apologize me
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@Busyman Iām doing well Deva, thanks for asking bro.
I appreciate all the comments and support shared here.
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hey joshua, hows it going? hope all is well, havenāt heard from you in awhile man.
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