Congrats man to 90 days. It is amazing and encouraging to see people reaching it!
I also asked myself so many times, what we have to do to get rid of it. I thought, that there need to be a list of things which we have to follow and which should help us out of this. That’s why I started a list at some point. But the farther I got, the more I felt like the list is not a really good thing or not the right way to go. I don’t think that there is a 5-point list with simple things which we can exactly follow.
But at the moment, I do believe that there are 5 very basic things to consider. They are on a very basic level but I think everyone has to apply them to their own personality and problem. I feel like, everyone needs to apply at least the first 4. Can’t see how it should be possible without these
These are my top 5:
Increase the priority of your real life. We always do, what has the highest priority to us. We need to love what we do in real live and we also need goals. Find hobbies which make you happy, get in touch with nature, try to find purpose in your job, so that you like doing it.
Decrease the priority of porn. Figure out why you wanna quit the addiction. The harms and negative effects
These two should allow you to get a better priority balance in life, you can see alternatives to porn. You stop to fight porn every single day
Find a way to handle the negative feelings. I guess we are all triggered by bad feelings. Tiredness, anxiety, feeling useless and so on. Porn gives us a way to flee the real-life problems.
Find a way to handle single, smaller urges. They will always occur. It’s small little actions we should make to a habit. Going out for a walk, short meditation, prayer and tiny things like these once we feel an urge. Everyone will have something else that works best
Get an accountability partner. The closer the person is, the better. A private message in the forum works better than shouting out in an impersonal post. Even better to have someone in a private messenger or real life.
These are the 5 rules I’m currently living after. I’m not yet on your level. But I feel that it starts to get better and better
I wanted to make a post about this at some point. But I don’t feel like I can do it before I reached 100 days.
Keep going man. You are amazing