DAY 3
Some urges… Quite boring mood…
Thanks for sharing this … I just finished of doing something and i come to get 5 min of rest and see this video by coincidence … Thanks for this calming moment @ neo 150
After completing 5 days… relapsed today…
It needs a lot of dedication and discipline…
This is my nofap manifesto. With the help of this advice, following this advice with 100% commitment, Iam on my 2nd 100+ days streak.
Ultimate advice to conquer this addiction
DAY 0
Study/Work
Meditation
Exercise
No junk videos(youtube/fb etc)
No relapse position
No peeking
No edging
No dirty talk
DAY 0
Study/Work
Meditation
Exercise
No junk videos(youtube/fb etc)
No relapse position
No peeking
No edging
No dirty talk
After updating here Y’Day I relapsed in night… I won the first battle but lost the second one… whatever I am happy for the first one… Atleast I am destroying a big and dangerous trigger permanently…
My H.S is 39 days… which is from 5th May 2020 to some date…
1 year is completed now… I could not able to cross my HS.
What to say… I relapsed last night… when I think about these things… stress increases and then relapse… it breaks confidence.
Why don’t you think will this stress help me in long run? No, then Live in present brother… You have so much potential to break anything not only your H. S.
But you can break anything what you think of…
Work towards betterment of yourself.
Never look back in past and regret…that I am still there where I started…
If you never start fresh again then you’ll stuck at same place.
Keep this in your mind:-
OLD WAY OF THINKING WON’T CHANGE YOUR FUTURE…
SO, CHANGE THE WAY OF THINKING (Not others, Yours) YOU’LL SEE CHANGES IN YOUR LIFE
Don’ts
No junk videos/youtube (only 1 in rest time)
No relapse position
No peeking
No edging
No dirty talk
Tasks
Study/work
Exercise
Meditation
Awesome video… Watch it to have some clarity about desires… Try to connect it with NF and PMO.
23rd May
Don’ts
No junk videos/youtube (only 1 in rest time)
No relapse position
No peeking
No edging
No dirty talk
Tasks
Study+work(4 hours)
Exercise(very little)
Meditation
24 May
Don’ts
No PMO
No junk videos/youtube (only 1 in rest time)
No relapse position
No peeking
No edging
No dirty talk
Tasks
Study+work(1.5 hours)
Exercise(very little)
Meditation
New month… LESS JERK OFF IN JUNE
Week 1 (2/6 to 8/6)
Reward
From day 3…daily reward… 1 episode daily.
1/6/21
No peeking(0)
No dirty talk(0)
No relapse position(0)
No edging(0)
No PMO(0/7d)
Study(0/4h)
Work(0/2h)
Exercise (0/1h)
Meditation (0/15m)
Week 1 (2/6 to 8/6)
2/6/21
No peeking(1)
No dirty talk(1)
No relapse position(1)
No edging(1)
No PMO(1/7d)
Study(3/4h)
Work(0/2h)
Exercise (1/1h)
Meditation (10/15m)
Week 1 (2/6 to 8/6)
3/6/21
No peeking(1)
No dirty talk(1)
No relapse position(1)
No edging(1)
No PMO(0/7d)
Study(1.5/4h)
Work(0.5/2h)
Exercise (1/1h)
Meditation (2/15m)
Lack of discipline and will power… I have to keep reminding myself about these tasks…
4/6/21
I did not record anything yesterday. Whole day… I watched a webseries. Now it is finished so I can get back to work now.
This month I am just trying to decrease my relapse frequency… I planned for only 1 relapse in 7days… So that after relapsing atleast I will have a target.
But I relapsed… Don’t know how can I deal with this.
I am lacking in will power and discipline a lot… And it needs these things. I am trying to do some other stuff regularly so that it builds a sense of discipline in me.
10/6/21
I was watching a movie scene… And it reminds me about my sin.
Feeling so pathetic… Whenever I think about those actions of mine… I feel so angry… Awful.
Just want to go back in time fix those things… Those things haunts me… I know that time I was a kid… Immature… I just followed same things What happened with me… What I learnt that time… Those things were right for me… But actually those were wrong… very very wrong.
I want to repent… I know I cannot go back in time… But yeah I can kill the main culprit behind all those things…
13/6/21
I am done now…this experiment of reducing frequency made things more worse.
When I relapse… My brain was like saying to me…this day is wasted… now you watch P**.
and I am again fighting with P** too…
This is enough…I know this can be done only with full discipline… as I did before… and many of my friends already did here.
This is a one shot thing… Either you leave it forever or you keep doing it.
I have observed…when I relapse on 7th day… then in next cycle strong urges start hitting me on 4th to 5th day…and If I relapsed on 5th day mistakenly…then next time urges start hitting more sooner like on 2nd day… in this cycle thing… one need a lot of will power and have to fight every week with the same force everytime
better option is one shot thing… atleast after a month… urges will be very less…obviously… fighting is an endless thing here.
No PMOing from today… whatever happens is acceptable…watching movie…web series…game etc… but PMO is not acceptable… becoz it will also doing the same thing that is destroying my life, career etc. So it is better I destroy it by myself by doing nothing at least I will be mentally healthy and physically fit and will be a man of ethics with clear thoughts and no sin inside.
Hey bro, Iam with you. Whatever happens, we are going to get rid of this shit this time.
We will be extremely accountable to each other. Everyday we will Check-in
An important secret to conquer any kind of addiction is take in one day at a time
And repeat
That’s all.
Its like the advice stay in the moment.
None of us need to conquer this addiction for 10 or 20 years. Just this day, that’s all. At the end, we only have this day and this moment, everything else only lies in our perception.
When urges arise tell to yourself
On the next day you will be much better and repeat the exercise
An observation:
Junk food was never a problem for me. But now a days it is becoming a problem slowly.
In previous days… When I was in college or school… I didn’t have that much money that time that I can eat junk everyday.
Ordering junk foods or eating at home REGULARLY is not allowed in my case…
When I go out for a walk in evening then junk foods shops are so tempting… SOLUTION of this is… do not carry any money… and also do not use mobile for online payment…or simple… do not carry mobile too.(This works for me)
From few days… Nobody was there at home…so I was eating a lot of junk food… but now they all are back… and today in evening… craving to eat something was so high…
This is the same thing as I feel while my brain craves for PMO… only difference is…this is small dopamine.
But here I am confident that I can leave this junk food thing easily… BECOZ:
I cannot order anything and eat at home… STRICTNESS… but external factor…I am sure this craving to eat something at home sitting in my room will not bother me much… Also I can’t hide that food and eat.
Outside thing can be countered easily…just carry no money and mobile.
Point is… I am not focusing on not eating in first place…and using will power… I am countering others things… which directly curb that addiction.
Same thing can be applied in PMO… but difference here is…there is nothing that just cut off its connection… I mean… Like we decide that we will not touch our d** then there will no MO…but IT NEEDS WILL POWER TO NOT TO TOUCH.
Conclusion for me
Focus on external things…which directly curb PMO.
I welcome your suggestions
One week Dopamine Detox
(20/6 to 26/6)
No social media
No youtube/any video/TV
No online games/chess
No songs
No junk food
No PMO
Intermittent fasting
Only calls and important msgs/mails
And also try to develop and follow important habits
After detox
Songs allowed (after work time only)
YouTube allowed for 15 min on mobile but open onoy for important stuff
1 chess match (in evening only)