Why didn’t you consider it as relapse? Ejaculation is considered strictly as relapse.
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I have seen different people do different ‘modes’ of NoFap roughly distributed in:
Easy Mode: No porn, but sex and masturbation is allowed
Medium Mode: No porn and no masturbation, but sex is allowed
Hard Mode: No porn, sex or masturbation
I have made some personal adjustments to my NoFap rulings though:
Obviously my final goal will be no PMO, but i first want to establish the Easy Mode. I consider anything a relapse that has to do with intentional porn consumption, regardless of me masturbating to it or not. I still try to minimize my masturbation and protocol it here in my journey whenever i masturbate. However, if i have sexual fantasies while i am masturbating i will count it as a relapse as well.
These rules may seem a little bit weird, but i think they have worked fine for me so far. I will change them though when i think i am ready for it. Right now, i am constantly stressed, sometimes the stress so unbearable, that i allow myself to masturbate in these moments.
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I forgot to mention one thing as well: I am a 22 year old virgin, soon i will be 23. So the part with no sex also hasnt been relevant for me.
And: I am currently doing a 30 day NoFap Hardmode challenge with @MaybeStephen.
If i can make it through this challenge comfortably with a good strategy (that i still have to figure out). I will change my objective in this challenge and try to not masturbate as well.
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Yes you are right. May be I was going wrong… I was watching p4rn and was over 50+ days. You know what happens when you consume p4rn without jerking off. Slowly sexual tension build up,and I had objectified my ex which leads to unprecedented relapse which is pretty sad. Yesterday I had reseted my counter to 0 as I had watched p4rn on 2 days streak
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You are on right track now bro 
.Keep going.
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You can join this thread .If you find helpful to you.
I am suggesting basically because I read the title of this thread
The link is this
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Yes bro…I was so wrong… Even though I was higher streaks,it was useless I think…
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I dont think it was useless. It is never useless if you can learn something from it. And i am sure you have learned something, not only because you have reseted your timer, but also on the road towards your streak. And arent of all of us in this community constantly learning about our addictions?
Our efforts are not worthless. The fact that we try to change ourselves for the better and help each other out if somebody stumbles, is good enough.
Keep moving forward, you got this! Wishing you all the best.
I will check it out. Thank you for the suggestion!
May 18: I woke up at 7:15 AM and did alot of stuff for university throughout the whole day. I didnt find the time to meditate, though i will do that right after i made this post.
I am very happy with how the day went. From time to time there were some unwanted thoughts, but i was able to let them go away quickly.
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May 19: I woke up at 7:50 AM, meditated and even though the morning wasnt very productive, the rest of the day sure was! I will write a test tomorrow. Hope, everything goes well for me.
I had no urges today. Which feels awesome.
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May 20: I woke up at 7 AM and wrote my test that i have learned for in the last couple of days. Feeling pretty well about. I then took some time to relax today.
I only had urges once today. I was able to fight it off by changing my activity.
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May 21: I masturbated in the middle of the night before i woke up. Not very proud of it. I didnt need to do it. I also slept for too long day and overall i didnt too many productive things today. Gotta get back into a rhythm.
I had some strong urges today, but i was able to change my activity and attention to other things which made me overcome those urges.
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May 22: i took quite some time to finally start the day. I woke up at 8 AM, but didnt meditate right away, though atleast i did meditate eventually. Still my day wasnt very productive. Tomorrow i have to do some important things with limited time, so i hope i will be able to do that.
I had alot of urges in the morning. It took me alot of time to fight them off.
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MAY 23: I already have planned for today that i will enjoy some freetime with a friend of mine. So, i couldnt be very productive today. Yet still i was able to do some stuff at least. I also meditated, but didnt work out.
I will try to work out more next week. I just didnt have the time this week, because i had to learn so much.
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May 24: I woke up late, because of yesterday at 10 AM. I was tired throughout the day and couldnt concentrate on working for university. Hopefully this changes tomorrow. No workout or meditation either today which i feel guilty for.
I had no urges today. I have recognized though that i have alot of random erections in the last couple if days.
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Update: I have made the decision to reset my timer, because i have masturbated too much in the last days. Masturbation will be relapse as well from now on. It distracts me too much and doesnt give me anything.
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May 25: Atleast i have learned something about myself and can start with a new goal. I also did yoga for the first time today. My productivity wasnt very high though. I really have been struggling with waking up early and immediately lately.
I had urges to masturbate. And i couldnt beat them. They made it so that i was alot less productive.
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May 26: Even though i woke up late today, my day was ver productive. I was able to do everything that i wanted except working, but some things were more important.
No urges today. This was day 1 of my new journey.
May 27: I woke up at 7:20 AM an i again was very productive. Still couldnt find time for a workout. But i am satisfied with how the way went, especially because…
…i was able to overcome all of my urges. And i had a ton of them today.
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