Yes. Youโre. 
Show me that enormous moment this time.
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Just dont rely on will power bro
Its stupid to think that we can beat a habit which is being continued for almost 5-6 years and is so strong that the propoganda is pushed to your mind every now and then, its clear that if we rely on willpower alone we are going to fail
Find a purpose
Find something which you love doing and stop caring about 1 relapse if you think more about it you will be stuck in chaser effect
Do something which you would love to do. Build a business go out and start meeting new people learn a skill which you would have wanted to become a childhood dream type. An animator or artist or anything which you would love.
And when you will be so absorbed in building something which you love. It will be a byproduct that you have gotten healed from this Addiction. 
Keep Going and remember its not your fault we live in a hyper stimulus world. And we are surrounded by weak men. Be angry be on guard 24x7 remember what people say use that anger to become a better version
We all are with you brother
The fact that we are nkt giving up even after trying so many times is itself a greatest achievement of all time donโt you think 
Just donโt you dare give up.
Donโt let the devil Win
The only way to win is to fight 
Think of other side of the equation, if you stopped trying you will be even more worse you are better than before brother, just imagine that filthy state of people where they have convinced themselves that its okay to do PMO they are not even trying to stop.
They ruined their health, mental health and everything
You donโt wanna be like them ofc if you keep fighting thereโs a high chance that you will make a 90 day and then 180 then a year but only when you stay consistent my bro.
I am sorry to say but willpower alone isnโt sufficient to beat this addiction.
We have to create a system where we are so busy and so absorbed in our work and like me writing this post I am not thinking of anything other than helping my fellow comrade
We got this brother. The more we fail the more we know about the things which will not work. Just keep searching for the thing which will work for you.
Listen to people who have already crossed 365 days streak. They say nofap is a lifestyle, an identity. It is who they have become after making themselves so busy in building a youtube channel, going to the gym or anything which they want
I hope the best for you and hope that there is something to help you in this long post.
Lets go @Sholt_Tenkerrot
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Same here, been watching lot of anime at night these days.
If you want we can have a challenge, i mean for keeping ourself clean. Like adding small tasks like working out, drinking water, keeping eyes clean etc. What do u say.
Letsโs do it in kanzo 7 day companion challenge page.
If u r ok lets start today.
From what u typed above, i feel like you are having a really bad time.
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I will be honest. Your improvement is very slow. But improvement is there.
As long as you keep working. You will get there. Just that it will take time. But donโt compare your journey to others. Your path is different.
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Bro Iโve read your 2 diaries yesterday , youโre in this forum since a very long time , youโve far better experience than others. Analyze where are you making mistake . Some of your mistakes are :
1.You are tired of failing : Youโve tried everything. nothing making a sense , you see yourself worst thing on this planet when you relapse. youโre failing more than one time continuously. which is completely fine in my opinion. You fail and fail until you overcome. focus on clean days in month.
2.You fear for a change : Donโt let fears ruin your journey. fears are good at some point but donโt fear for a change. say to yourself that Iโm entering into a new life from now , Iโm forgetting what kind of shits Iโve done in my past. this is completely new phase of my life. let me bring a change.
You have a strong mindset , but strong mindset is not enough. you need a proper plan regarding your journey like what Iโm going to do in Day 1 to Day 100.
Take ONE DAY at a time conquer it and move to DAY 2.
But brother i really loved your self improvement journey , it is better than me along with every person present in this forum. like @debellator said , your path is different donโt compare with it someone else. Analyze it and move from it. set small targets like 3 or even 5 days conquer them and set more. Analyze your triggers & fix it. God is always with you my brother , reach out for me if you need any help. God bless you
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Everyone has to go through tough phases, Sholt. We do stupid things, things weโd despise others for, things for which weโd laugh and wonder if that sort of idiocacy can even happenโฆ and yet we do that. Sometimes, we know the truth, we know whatโs wrong, but still somewhere deep down we out of our human habit keep hoping that things will change just because you have been doing everything that you can for someone. Even after it ends, we keep hoping that things will change and maybe someone or something will return. Do not blame yourself for anything. You were not stupid, you were not idiot, you are not a failure and you are certainly none of the things that any stupid organism told you. You are a man, a human being and overall a person with emotions and needs. This is a phase, and most men go through it.
I will tell you a few conclusions from a related study and my own observations:
- A study conducted on patients in terminal wards in different major hospitals, and prisoners nearing their death sentence across the world, found that these people hold very high hopes of things changing, not because they cannot accept death but because they are scared of being separated from their loved ones.
- Even in extreme cases of hunger and poverty, pet dogs tend to stay faithful to their care-takers, not because they fed them at some point but because of the love that exists between them.
- A reason a lot of people endure hardships in a troubled marriage is to ensure a better life for their children, not because they expect anything from their children but because of how much they love them, irrespective of the fact if its reciprocated or not.
I am only telling you these facts so that you do not let anything into fooling you that you were wrong or stiupid in being the way that you were. Its just so that you donโt blame yourself, but become responsible to ensure that you become a stronger and resilient man. Success is not an easy climb, it has its highs and lows, but if you keep moving youโll get there. You have to get busy with your life, you have to take the responsibility to create the life that you want to live, whether through your education, health or finances. Do not care about what you receive but on what you can give to yourself, and then to others. 16 days, 160 days, 1600 days, 16000 days, does not matter. What matters is how you work towards your goals everyday. Every day is the same, it has 24 hours, there will be good days, there will be bad days, somedays youโll be loved, some days youโll be despised, somedays youโll succeed, somedays youโll fail, but whatโs important is that you do not tie your efforts to some result or fruit.
I know you the poetntial, so believe in yourself. Rise up and shine.
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Glad, you finally understand. 
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Iโm glad your relapses didnโt put out the fire in you to quit this shit. Some people give up, but we in this forum arenโt quitters! Iโm somehow stuck in 1 month streak, give or take a few days, but I know resilience builds up gradually. I used to be unable to quit for 3 days! The important thing in my opinion is to realise bs excuses and be wary of unplanned free time. In your free time always know in advance what youโre going to do and better off if you wouldnโt have free time at all lol or in case you have youโd be tired from working your โ โ โ off and just want to rest without touching down, this is the only thing that worked out for me so far because whenever Iโm alone and got nothing to do, immediately, all the pmo circuits in my brain fire up and end up relapsing. Anyway, I heartily salute you for trying to increase your streak and not be content with 16 days even though they arenโt few, we donโt belittle any kind of effort, but certainly aiming higher is the goal! We love you too brother. Letโs kill this shit and rise above it. 
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Sure bhai 
as your birthday gift. 30 hours left 
Sure bhai ! Letโs start
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I agree @debellator and @Covertxomic1 brother, but I wasnโt comparing with anyone, all that came after introspection and self realisation , that I have been feeling since last few days. I agree with the words you all are saying, I appreciate your words 
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Thank you so much brothers @debellator @PrDr @rewire_user @mrxdul @yashnofap01 @Abhishek_V @Covertxomic1 @Wanderer. Thanks for your words and reminding me about the Important things , at this point I have hit the bottom rock , but I will make significant progress, I will do my best, !
All I have to do is stick to my plan and be consistent. I have to build a decent physique before 2025 and ace my course. Self improvement is the only way for me and I will keep moving forward as always but this time with more resilience!
As my brothers used to say
If You Win, You Live. If You Lose, You die. If You donโt fight, You canโt Win. The only way to Win is to Fight! Flame on!
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Oh No. You know some secret dates. 
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Hey bro @Sholt_Tenkerrot, I can totally relate. Iโve been there too, and honestly, Iโve wasted years on people who didnโt value me the way I deserved. What hurts the most is when you invest so much into someone or something, and it doesnโt turn out the way you hoped. But remember, itโs okay to feel hurt, and itโs okay to make mistakes. Thatโs all part of learning and growing. Youโre not pathetic for caring deeply, in fact, it shows your strength and your capacity to love, even when things donโt work out.
What matters now is that youโre realizing your worth and setting boundaries to protect your mental health moving forward. The journey might feel heavy now, but this pain will pass. Youโll come out of this stronger, more self-aware, and with even greater clarity about what you truly deserve. Keep focusing on the people who lift you up and stay true to yourself.
And remember, bro, your life is waiting for you. Your dreams, your goals, all of it. Invest your full energy in that, and things will fall into place. We often end up betting on people, and then question ourselves when that bet doesnโt pay off. But hereโs the thing, bet on yourself. Bet on becoming the best version of you that you know is inside, and youโll never be disappointed.
Love you too, brother. Keep that fire alive within you.
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Thanks a lot for your words bhai @LL667788
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JAB JAGO TAB SAVERA
Believe in yourself bhai and most important believe in god
Love You Too Bhaiโค๏ธ
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12 November 2024
Waking up late , but woke up at 9:30 am ( early for me) , did tap tap 2 days ago and did almost 6-7 times during those 2 days , edged today , so I am not clean , I will count only clean days , touching my penisular island unnecarily = relapse for me , even if i edge for 1 second I will count it as relapse.
I am not studying well , I get the urge to study but end up being lazy and distracted . When I study well I donโt exercise , when I exercise regularly I donโt study . Have to fix it . I thought I moved on completely but still the memories , the feelings are not so strong like it was in the start of november . Itโs normal ig , but I will be moved on completely at the end of November or the year fs. I will also do 500 skipping everyday . I saw something crazy in my legs , maybe because I tried to flex for the first time and I could see a muscle popping out in quads while flexing and it was magic of good lighting.
I will try to journal at around 10 pm everyday , sleeping at 2:30 am - 3am is new normal for me , sleeping time from 12-12:30 am to 3 am, the heck lol . I also eat late at around 1-2pm during the day and itโs been like this since quarantine , 2021.
Tomorrow goals
| 1 | Wake up at 8:15 am |
| 2 | No scrolling before breakfast |
| 3 | Study 6 hours |
| Stats | 2 hours before 1pm |
| CT | 2.5 hours before 5:30pm |
| Maths | 2 hours before 10 pm |
| 4 | Walk 10k steps |
| 5 | Take supplements |
| 6 | Dot meditation |
| 7 | Workout |
| 8 | Update the threads |
| 9 | Learn new thing and practice |
| 10 | Sleep before 1am |
! God bless you
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realatable
I would be half dead if it was me 
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